Every few weeks, Twitter is taken over by a Main Character — a person who, seemingly independent of planning, becomes all anyone on the app can talk about for approximately 12 to 24 hours.
Sometimes, the Main Character is an easy one to catch, like when Elon Musk says any of those things Elon Musk says(Opens in a new tab), or when Mark Zuckerberg barbecues(Opens in a new tab) or goes hydrofoiling(Opens in a new tab). And, of course, there are those characters on Twitter who are controversial by nature and, with their large followings, are seemingly automatic victims of the Main Character farm. Twitter even created a secretive "Project Guardian(Opens in a new tab)" to protect the thousands of users who are deemed high risk for harassment.
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But typically, Main Characters are people who have such terrible takes that everyone else on Twitter feels overwhelmingly compelled to dunk on them. And the best ones are those who surprise us. Here are four of the most fascinating Main Characters of 2021, from politicians to parents.
Bean dad
It was January 2021 when we were all introduced to our first Main Character of the year. John Roderick, a musician and podcaster, tweeted about how his 9-year-old daughter wanted some baked beans. Instead of just, you know, cooking the beans for her, he saw it as a "teaching moment" and proceeded to let his child try to figure out how to open the can on her own. Of course, she didn't know how to open it because she is 9 years old and had never been told how a can opener works. According to Roderick, it took her six hours to open the can.
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The story infuriated Twitter and led to multiple trending phrases on the app, including "She’s 9," "Apocalypse Dad," and "SIX HOURS." A few days later, Roderick, who had been dubbed "bean dad" by the public, issued a lengthy apology on his website(Opens in a new tab). However, by then the discourse had already moved on.
Shrimp in Cinnamon Toast Crunch
In March, Jensen Karp — writer, comedian, art gallery owner, radio personality, and husband of Topanga from Boy Meets World — tweeted a photo of what appeared to be shrimp tails in his box of Cinnamon Toast Crunch. It was a fishy story for many reasons: a comedian named Jensen Karp, married to Danielle Fishel, found shrimp in his cereal?
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This might seem harmless at first glance. A gross meal gone wrong, a funny tweet, end of story, right? Wrong.
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Cinnamon Toast Crunch responded by saying that object wasn't a shrimp but was a clump of cinnamon sugar. Karp said that couldn't be true because he also found string in the box, black marks on the cereal, a resealed bag, and other oddities. There was a new theory: Had rats nested in the box?
So General Mills, the company that manufactures Cinnamon Toast Crunch, tried to get the apparent shrimp tails and cereal tested(Opens in a new tab). We're still waiting to find out the results.
Meanwhile, Karp was publicly accused(Opens in a new tab) of multiple acts of misconduct and has since gone radio silent.
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Marjorie Taylor Greene, you're violating my HIPAA rights
Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene of Georgia, who is also a far-right conspiracy theorist, trends on Twitter often for her wild and objectively awful takes. But this take created a movement that was more based in humor than devastating misinformation, so we'll take it.
When the representative was asked if she had been vaccinated, she responded by saying the question was "a violation of my HIPAA rights. You see, with HIPAA rights we don't have to reveal our medical records, and that also includes our vaccine records."
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This is not how HIPAA works, and it resulted in an onslaught of jokes.
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Capitol rioter tasered his testicles to death?
This one goes out to Twitter user @ggooooddddoogg(Opens in a new tab), who tweeted out a joke that Kevin Greeson, one of the four people who died while storming the Capitol in 2021, tasered his testicles to death(Opens in a new tab). Multiple news outlets reported it as fact (it is not). His family confirmed he died of a heart attack, but didn't comment on the taser situation.
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And for a brief moment, Greeson became a Main Character.
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Wherever there is content extolling the benefits of masturbation, so too will you find a whole onslaught of voices condemning it. The topic always comes along with conversations about frequency, namely: Doing it too much. "While anxieties and negative attitudes about sexuality can be found throughout history, masturbation has particularly been a behavior of concern," says Sarah Melancon(opens in a new tab), Ph.D, a sociologist, clinical sexologist, and resident expert at The Sex Toy Collective.
Libido is built out of our reward system — and so the more positive experiences you have, the more you want. Masturbation and orgasms beget wanting more masturbation, sex, and orgasms. TL;DR: masturbation is amazing. Solo sex is a fantastic (and free!) way to de-stress, unwind, and boost positive neuro-transmitters(opens in a new tab). It can also help boost mood and self-esteem.
At the same time, there is nuance. Zachary Zane(opens in a new tab), author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto(opens in a new tab) and sex expert for Momentum Intimacy(opens in a new tab), points out, you can do pretty much anything too much. "Masturbation only becomes an issue if it's negatively affecting other aspects of your life," he says. For instance, if your masturbation habits have you skipping work, ditching sex with your partner, or are causing pain or injury, then it may be worth it to reevaluate your masturbation habits. "But if it's NOT negatively impacting your life in any way, then keep at it! Enjoy it," Zane says.
In all likeliness, your wanking habits are probably completely normal and fine.
In all likeliness, your wanking habits are probably completely normal and fine. And so, for this glorious month that is Masturbation May, we will be doing away with the pervasive idea that if you’re getting off too much, you’re doing something wrong or shameful or might break your dick/clit. Let’s shift the mindset.
The roots of 'dangerous masturbation'
Why are people so obsessed with how often you touch your junk? Melancon says that it’s pretty heavily based in religion. "Many religions condemn sexual activity(opens in a new tab) outside of heterosexual marriage, including masturbation," she says. "In Judeo-Christian religions, masturbation is considered a sin." This harks back to the "spilling the seed" story of Onan in the Bible. Onan was having sex with his brother’s wife and instead of climaxing inside her, he pulled out so that she wouldn't carry his off-spring. You know, a really cute and chill situation. God obviously curses him for spilling his seed because, well, The Bible. Ironically, the story on which this concept is based actually describes Onan pulling out rather than masturbation.
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In the Victorian era(opens in a new tab), masturbation was thought to cause mental illness. These pervasive views on the dangers and evils of masturbation may be more coded in 2023, but the ghosts of the past still seem to follow us.
Can you actually masturbate TOO much?
Basically, not really. As long as you’re not rubbing yourself raw or ditching work to pound it out 24-7, Silva Neves(opens in a new tab), an accredited psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, says that getting yourself off is not an issue you need to be worried about. "There is no evidence to suggest that masturbation is bad, and there is no agreed definition on measuring what is 'too much,' because everybody's limits are subjective and individual," he says.
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What’s more, there is no evidence that frequent masturbation is in any way bad or addictive. The idea that masturbating too much can become a problem is heavily steeped in shame and sex negativity. Neves tells us that using terms like "porn addiction" or "sex addiction" is highly problematic — as it both increases shame around sex and is not endorsed by either the ICD or the DSM-5 as an addiction.
Long story short: You can’t masturbate too much as long as you aren’t hiding away in your room, ignoring your friends, family, and obligations in order to get off constantly. It’s about cultivating healthy habits.
How you feel about masturbation informs how you feel about your behaviors.
It’s not usually about whether you’re masturbating too much, it’s about how you FEEL about the behavior. A recent study(opens in a new tab) found four groupings of individuals based on masturbation frequency and sexual satisfaction.
High masturbation frequency + Satisfied
Low/no masturbation frequency + Satisfied
High masturbation frequency + Dissatisfied
Low/no masturbation frequency + Dissatisfied
For those who reported high masturbation frequency and dissatisfaction, Melancon says that this group probably consists of people who view masturbation as being either bad or "less than" partnered sex. "This would likely include individuals using masturbation as a coping mechanism as well as individuals who are lonely and would rather at least some of their masturbation was actually partnered sexual activity instead," she says. What’s more, studies have shown(opens in a new tab) that people who have higher levels of religious belief are more likely to view their masturbation habits as "addictive," when the behaviors themselves are by no means clinically compulsive.
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If you can shift away from the idea that masturbation = less than, gross, wrong, or addictive and into a mindset of masturbation = happy, healthy, and normal, you’re likely to see a massive improvement in how you perceive your habits. After all, masturbation is a healthy and OK form of sexual activity. Enough with the shame.
Dealing with death grip.
Like all good things in life, you might run into problems. Death Grip refers to masturbating in a repeated way, with a very tight grip on the penis. It can also refer to clitorises that are receiving the same, intense form of stimulation (often with a vibrator), leading to temporarily diminished effectiveness of other forms of sexual activity. The term "Death Grip" was originally coined by sex columnist Dan Savage in 2003. Savage was also the first person to coin the term "pegging" (when a cis-man is anally penetrated by someone wearing a strap-on or dildo).
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Death Grip is not an official medical diagnosis — it’s a recognized phenomenon that has been seen in many clinical settings. But, the aim should be dealing with it without pathologizing people. Death grip is actually highly treatable and highly subjective. It’s only a problem if you believe it’s a problem and want to do something about it. There’s nothing wrong with preferring or even needing one form of stimulation to receive pleasure, if that’s what you want.
If you’re experiencing Death Grip and feel like you’re losing sensation, change up your masturbation habits. Kenneth Play, an international educator and the bestselling author of Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker’s Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence(opens in a new tab), refers to "Habit Loops That Rule Our Sex Lives." He tells us that "The more you masturbate in a particular way, the more deeply ingrained a particular pathway to orgasm becomes, and our sexual identity forms around it. Our habits create a fast track to pleasure, and they can put up roadblocks to other forms of sex."
"When we masturbate in different ways for a couple of weeks, we start to rewire our habit loops, and we can learn new ways of getting pleasure."
It’s not that you’re damaging your penis/clit or causing permanent desensitization, it’s just that you’ve gotten used to masturbating in a certain way — and so other forms of sex don’t feel as intense. "We can break our habit loops by turning down the volume on them for a while. We can put the vibrator away or relax the death grip on our penises," Play says. "When we masturbate in different ways for a couple of weeks, we start to rewire our habit loops, and we can learn new ways of getting pleasure."
Melancon also suggests bringing in a mindfulness practice. “Mindfulness-style practices can help one expand one’s sensory awareness, so over time a lighter grip can become more pleasurable,” she says. Staying connected to our bodies can help to foster stronger connections between our genitals and our minds.
It’s not that you’re masturbating too much, it might just be that you’re masturbating in the same way a bit too much. It might mean that you’re masturbating in a way that isn’t super connected to your body and doesn’t foster a ton of awareness. Masturbation frequency doesn’t need to cause problems if we cultivate a creative and positive mindset around it. Death Grip isn’t permanent and it simply means a change-up might be in order.
All in all, your masturbation habits are probably completely fine and we’d do better to celebrate self-love, rather than demonize it.
Bobcat rescued after being stuck in a cars grill for miles on Thanksgiving
A bobcat just received the best Thanksgiving miracle: a second chance at life.
Richmond Animal Care and Control(opens in a new tab) in Virginia rushed to the aid of the wild, big kitty after it was struck with a car on Thanksgiving Day by a citizen on her way to work.
According to their Facebook post(opens in a new tab), the woman parked her car only to find the bobcat unable to move inside the grill.
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Rescuers rushed to the scene where they sedated and freed the bobcat, according to the Facebook post. He was then transferred to another animal care center, the Wildlife Center of Virginia for further treatment.
Luckily for the cat, he only endured one minor scrape on his back.
Trump praises Native Americans and uses racial slur in the same sentence
You may have survived Thanksgiving with your racist uncle, but President Donald Trump won't let that feeling of relief last long.
At an event honoring the Navajo code talkers who played a vital role in the U.S. military during World War II, Trump couldn't stop himself from making a racist dig at Sen. Elizabeth Warren, calling her "Pocahontas."
here is the video of Trump calling Elizabeth Warren 'Pocahontas' at an event honoring Native American veterans. cringy pic.twitter.com/FrbMSBXM7L(opens in a new tab)
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After three of the 13 remaining Navajo code talker veterans had the chance to share their history in the Oval Office on Monday, the president got up to give his remarks. The Navajo code talkers(opens in a new tab) served in the Marine corps during World War II, communicating top-secret messages in a code derived from their complex native language.
Trump immediately handed over a binder of his prepared statements to the veterans, and proceeded to go off book. And that can only mean disaster with him.
In his typical image-obsessed fashion, he first complimented the "good genes" of the elderly veterans. Then things got downright offensive.
After admiring the Native American veterans' long history in the United States, he told them, "we have a representative in Congress who they say was here a long time ago. They call her 'Pocahontas.'"
And the moment was as horrifying and awkward as it sounds.
Trump meeting with Navajos at the WH today tells them they have a representative in Congress. "They call her Pocahontas," he said. @jeffzeleny(opens in a new tab) reports there was an awkward silence
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The president's derogatory nickname for Warren stems from the Massachusetts senator's claims that she has Cherokee ancestors. Although Warren was criticized by the press during her 2012 Senate race for not being able to back up these claims, Trump seems to think it's okay to make up a racist nickname for her.
And as many have pointed out, it's not okay.
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— Dan Pfeiffer (@danpfeiffer) November 27, 2017(opens in a new tab)
Extremely good and normal to make native American WWII veterans listen to an ethnic slur while standing near a portrait of Andrew Jackson
— Dave Weigel (@daveweigel) November 27, 2017(opens in a new tab)
"Pocahontas" is a racial slur. This behavior is malicious, deranged, and precisely what we have come to expect. https://t.co/OFlQmLp0Ln(opens in a new tab)
— Lauren Duca (@laurenduca) November 27, 2017(opens in a new tab)
Some also pointed out the tone deaf juxtaposition of celebrating Native American war heroes in front of a presidential portrait of Andrew Jackson, who was responsible for the death and displacement of many Native Americans, and who also happens to be one of President Trump's favorite predecessors.
Sen. Warren responded to the president's remarks on television shortly after the event.
WATCH: Elizabeth Warren responds to Trump's "Pocahontas" remark on @MSNBC(opens in a new tab):
"It is deeply unfortunate that the President of the United States cannot even make it through a ceremony honoring these heroes without having to throw out a racial slur." pic.twitter.com/au1QntxDzR(opens in a new tab)
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Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders had other ideas, telling the press corps that she thought categorizing Trump's "Pocahontas" jab as a slur was "ridiculous."
UPDATE Nov. 27 3:55 p.m. PT
The Navajo Nation responded to the incident with a statement, insisting that "cultural insensitivity is unfortunate."
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Terry Crews on alleged sexual assaulter back at work: SOMEONE GOT A PASS
Since practically Day 1 of the sexual misconduct reckoning in Hollywood, Terry Crews was one of the strongest voices speaking truth to power. Now that his alleged harasser has been welcomed back to work, he's not backing down.
Crews famously accused a "high level Hollywood executive" of groping him at a 2016 party, leading top WME talent agent Adam Venit to take a leave of absence. Mashable has confirmed that Venit returned to work on Monday.
For his part, Crews did not mince words in his response to this development:
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Sources familiar with the situation tell us that after a two-week internal investigation, Venit was suspended for 30 days without pay and demoted from head of the powerful agency's motion picture group. Even without that title, Venit is a true Hollywood power broker who represents high-profile celebrities like Adam Sandler, Sylvester Stallone, Emma Stone, Dustin Hoffman, Liam Hemsworth and Steve Martin.
Presumably, Venit returns to WME even while still under investigation by the LAPD, after Crews filed a police report about the incident last month.
Crews says that personally called on Ari Emanuel, co-CEO of WME, with his concerns. In a Tweet, Crews posted pictures of a HuffPost article Emanuel wrote in 2011 demanding that Mel Gibson be blacklisted from entertainment for his infamous anti-Semitic tirade.
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According to Crews, he gave Emanuel a printout of the article with a few edits. Emanuel – the man who in all likelihood chose to reinstate Venit – allegedly handed it back to Crews, claiming that "it's different."
In the past month, Crews has gone on record about the incident, while also shining a spotlight on how both race and gender factor into sexual harassment.
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As this cultural shift in sexual assault continues to unfold, it's important to note which victims and predators slip through the cracks. Crews remains steadfast in his bravery as he demonstrates that victims are often not treated equally.
And, in some cases, alleged perpetrators are still apparently considered too big to fail.
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Fake Roy Moore accuser tries to trick the Washington Post and fails spectacularly
Project Veritas, you just played yourself.
The group, founded by conservative "guerrilla journalist" James O’Keefe, tried to expose the Washington Post(opens in a new tab) but ended up looking pretty dumb in the end.
It all started when a woman approached the Post with a story. She said that when she was 15 years old, she'd been impregnated by Roy Moore, the Alabama senate candidate who has been accused of sexually harassing and assaulting teenage girls.
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But when the Washington Post fact-checked her story(opens in a new tab), it didn't add up -- and then they watched her walk into the New York offices of Project Veritas. The "sting" was supposed to expose, I don't know, some liberal conspiracy against Moore. Instead it showed just how professional and thorough the Washington Post is when it comes to checking facts.
The story was met with delight online.
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The botched undercover investigation shouldn't come as a surprise. This is the guy whose organization failed to get a CNN reporter onto a boat filled with dildos(opens in a new tab), and who outed its own plan to infiltrate a George Soros event by forgetting to hang up the phone(opens in a new tab).
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The conversation between the woman and Washington Post reporter was supposed to be off the record. But when the Post found out her true motives, all bets were off, according to executive editor Martin Baron
“We always honor ‘off-the-record’ agreements when they’re entered into in good faith," Baron said. "But this so-called off-the-record conversation was the essence of a scheme to deceive and embarrass us. The intent by Project Veritas clearly was to publicize the conversation if we fell for the trap. Because of our customary journalistic rigor, we weren’t fooled, and we can’t honor an ‘off-the-record’ agreement that was solicited in maliciously bad faith.”
O'Keefe didn't respond when the Post asked "if he was working with Moore, former White House adviser and Moore supporter Stephen K. Bannon, or Republican strategists."
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But he did try to defend himself by bragging about trending on Twitter, and then releasing a totally unrelated video before asking his supporters for more money.
So, take that, competent mainstream media.
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Blogger gets seven years in jail after writing about toxic spill in Vietnam
A court in Vietnam has sentenced a blogger to seven years in jail for reports he wrote about a toxic spill in the country.
On Monday Nguyen Van Hoa was found guilty of spreading "anti-state propaganda" about a chemical spill that occured in Vietnam in 2016.
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The spill, which occured in April, has been dubbed the country's worst environmental disaster. It happened when Formosa Ha Tinh Steel, a Taiwanese-owned steel factory released chemicals which included cyanide, into the sea.
The discharge killed marine life, causing at least 70 tonnes of dead fish(opens in a new tab) to be washed ashore and destroyed some 200 hectares of coral reef. Hundreds of people were believed to have fallen ill after eating the poisoned fish.
Thousands of demonstrators had come out to the factory protesting(opens in a new tab) and demanding compensation. It was these protests that the 22-year-old blogger wrote about that led to his arrest earlier this year.
“The sentencing of Nguyen Van Hoa shows how profoundly the government’s paranoid desire to maintain political control trumps notions of justice and human rights," Phil Robertson, deputy director of Human Rights Watch Asia told the New York Times. (opens in a new tab)
"How else can one explain that executives of an international firm that poisoned the ocean... are free to go about their business while this idealistic young journalist is heading to prison for helping expose their misdeeds?"
'Defaming' the government
But Nguyen isn't the only blogger to be affected.
Another blogger, Nguyen Ngoc Nhu Quynh, known as Mother Mushroom, was jailed earlier in June(opens in a new tab) this year for 10 years, for distributing propaganda against the state.
Mother Mushroom first rose to prominence in 2006 writing about political and environmental issues.
Her blog was frequently critical of the government, and she wrote about controversial issues like Beijing's financing of a bauxite mine in Vietnam and the government's handling of the toxic chemical spill.
At a closed-door trial, a judge said she had defamed the government(opens in a new tab) and published inaccurate information, among other charges.
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Vietnam's government was heavily criticised after it remained silent for weeks after the chemical spill incident, only coming out later in June (opens in a new tab)to acknowledge that Formosa had indeed leaked chemicals into the South China Sea.
The company later admitted responsibility and agreed to pay $500 million in damages.
It re-opened (opens in a new tab)in May this year, with the organisation saying it would "improve environmental safety measures" and aim to re-start commercial production by the end of the year.
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If Trump doesnt believe the Access Hollywood tape is real, he should just ask Billy Bush
That President Donald Trump would buy into a conspiracy theory isn't a surprise.
That he would concoct a new one that attempts to completely retcon his own history shows that, even after an absolutely bananas 10 months in office, he still has the power to stun us.
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But that's where we're at as word continues to spread that Trump is privately suggesting the infamous Access Hollywood tape -- the one published by the (opens in a new tab)Washington Post(opens in a new tab) in which Trump audibly advocates sexual assault to a chuckling Billy Bush -- may not be real.
The New York Times first reported(opens in a new tab) the whisperings as a buried nugget in a story about how Trump is tacitly endorsing Roy Moore in the Alabama senate race despite the heap of allegations facing Moore.
And, on Monday, the Times' White House reporter Maggie Haberman said a third person has reported Trump's doubts over that being his voice on the tape.
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This all despite the fact that Trump fessed up and even offered an apology(opens in a new tab) for his statements after the story broke and his continuing to defend the conversation as "locker room talk."
But no matter how much Trump may be trying to convince others -- or even himself -- that the video isn't him, if there's one person who knows the truth, it's Billy Bush.
A littler over a week after the Post published the tape, Bush was fired by NBC(opens in a new tab) from his job at The Today Show. And though it would take months for Bush to publicly address the incident, he gave no indication that the conversation is, in any way, fake.
Speaking to (opens in a new tab)The Hollywood Reporter(opens in a new tab) in May 2017, Bush said:
"Looking back upon what was said on that bus, I wish I had changed the topic. [Trump] liked TV and competition. I could've said, 'Can you believe the ratings on whatever?' But I didn't have the strength of character to do it."
When considering he was fired for his part in the conversation but Trump was elected president, Bush noted, "the irony was glaring."
And if there's a guy who you think would try to claim the "tape is fake" card, it's the guy who actually lost his job because of it.
The conversation was recorded in 2005 and one can forgive a fuzzy memory, especially from a man who has spewed so much vitriol just in the last 2.5 years, let alone the last decade. But even Trump can't possibly be this delusional, right?
For their part, the folks at (opens in a new tab)Access Hollywood(opens in a new tab) are standing firm and saying that, yes, the tape is real.
Bush hasn't commented on this latest wrinkle but he was recently hit in the head by a golf ball(opens in a new tab) which, frankly, would give him a far better excuse than Trump for having a hazy recollection.
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Donald Trump just retweeted anti-Muslim videos from a British extreme far-right group
UPDATE (3:15 p.m. ET): Updated to include White House comment on the videos.
U.S. President Donald J. Trump woke up Wednesday morning and retweeted three anti-Muslim, anti-immigrant, unverified videos from the deputy leader of one of Britain's most extreme far-right groups, Britain First.
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The Twitter feed of Jayda Fransen, who was convicted(opens in a new tab) of religiously aggravated harassment last year after hurling abuse at a woman in hijab in front of her four young children, is basically just a stream of hateful content targeting Muslims and immigrants.
Fransen was charged again(opens in a new tab) with religiously aggravated harassment in September this year.
She was ecstatic that the U.S. President retweeted her unverified videos:
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Last year, Britain First announced(opens in a new tab) it was launching "direct action campaign against Muslim elected officials" targeting "where they live, work, pray". They singled out Sadiq Khan, mayor of London, and Sajid Javid, cabinet minister.
The killer of British MP Jo Cox, Thomas Mair, reportedly shouted “Britain First”(opens in a new tab) as he shot and stabbed the Labour MP last year, one week before of the EU referendum.
Cox's husband tweeted in response to Trump's retweets:
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The first video tweeted by Fransen is entitled "Muslim migrant beats up migrant boy on crutches" but according Geenstijl(opens in a new tab), the news site that posted it, "the perpetrator was not Muslim or a migrant, but a Dutchman."
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On Wednesday morning, White House press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders told reporters that whether or not the videos were real, "these are real threats we have to talk about.
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Meghan Markle started on Deal or No Deal way before her big royal engagement
Meghan Markle knows all about making important decisions.
Before she became a paralegal on Suits and Prince Harry's future bride, she was a briefcase model on Deal or No Deal.
According to TMZ(opens in a new tab), she appeared in 34 episodes and modeled three different briefcases.
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"I went from working in the U.S. Embassy in Argentina to ending up on Deal. It's run the gamut," she told Esquire(opens in a new tab) back in 2013. "Definitely working on Deal or No Deal was a learning experience, and it helped me to understand what I would rather be doing."
Although she appreciated the opportunity, Markle didn't shy away from telling the publication about the tiring experience: "I would end up standing up there forever in these terribly uncomfortable and inexpensive five-inch heels just waiting for someone to pick me so I could go and sit down."
Despite her time as a case model, people applaud her for where she ended up -- being future royalty.
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NBC employees reveal chilling details of Matt Lauers alleged sexual harassment
Details on the alleged inappropriate behavior leading to Today co-host Matt Lauer's ouster from NBC have surfaced – including sex toys as gifts, coerced sex with female employees and the disturbing report that Lauer had a button under his desk that could lock the door to his secluded office from within.
NBC's initial statement Wednesday cited one complaint from a fellow female employee dating back to the Sochi Olympics. But in a memo, NBC News chairman Andy Lack said that "while it is the first complaint about his behavior" during his 20 years at the network, "we were also presented with reason to believe this may not have been an isolated incident."
Hours later, Variety(opens in a new tab) revealed numerous, corroborated accounts of Lauer's widespread sexual harassment at the network from women who declined to be named.
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Allegations ranged from inappropriate "games" regarding coworkers' sex lives, to gifting a female colleague a sex toy with a lewd note about how he wanted her to use it, and even exposing himself to an employee in his office before berating her for not performing sex acts on him. Ten employees described Lauer's "fixation" on women, both at 30 Rockefeller and out in the field on assignment, including frequent comments on female staffers' appearances and sex lives.
Perhaps most chillingly, Lauer reportedly had a button in his office desk that could discretely lock the door. Two victims of his harassment said this emboldened his inappropriate behavior.
The New York Times(opens in a new tab) later reported Wednesday that NBC subsequently received at least two more complaints, one from a former employee who said Lauer summoned her and had sex with her in his office in 2001. The unidentified woman told the Times "she felt helpless because she didn’t want to lose her job, and that she didn’t report the encounter at the time because she felt ashamed."
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Though the network insisted it received its first complaint on Monday, many victims say they'd previously brought his behavior to the attention of NBC executives. One former reporter said that "management sucks there," and claimed executives "protected the shit out of Matt Lauer."
Lauer is the third high-ranking NBC employee to recently be terminated from the network for inappropriate sexual behavior at the workplace, joining Today correspondent Mark Halperin and senior top talent booker Matt Zimmerman.
The network initially declined to comment on Variety's story. But a spokesperson gave a CNN reporter a statement(opens in a new tab) claiming that, "We can say unequivocally, that, prior to Monday night, current NBC News management was never made aware of any complaints about Matt Lauer’s conduct.”
While sources accounted for consensual relationships between Lauer and some NBC staffers, they also questioned the enormous power discrepancy involved. Producers from the network echoed the worry that denying Lauer's alleged advances would pose a risk to their careers.
"He couldn’t sleep around town with celebrities or on the road with random people, because he’s Matt Lauer and he’s married," one producer told Variety. "So he’d have to do it within his stable, where he exerted power, and he knew people wouldn’t ever complain."
As for the alleged Olympics incident cited by NBC, it appears to have been par for the course: Sources described how Lauer often initiated late-night hotel room visits with female employees during multiple Olympics.
Lauer often presented himself as a bastion of progressive ideals on camera. Only three months ago, he interviewed his essential equivalent star at Fox News, Bill O'Reilly, grilling him over his own sexual misconduct in the workplace.
Lauer has yet to comment or issue a statement.
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Vape lung crisis is a wake-up call for the weed industry
America's $11 billion legal weed industry has become pretty adept at blowing smoke. More than $880 million in venture capital was thrown at cannabis companies last year (Opens in a new tab)— twice the figure for the year before. Judging by the increasingly jargon-laced emails from pot companies in my inbox, touting their "cannabis lifestyle" products and services, most of that money has been shoveled into the marketing department.
But now the fledgling industry is facing its first major marketing crisis: a crash of confidence in one of its flagship products, the vape pen. And instead of leaping to its own defense, the reaction from Big Weed has been that of the proverbial stoner paralyzed on the couch.
The alarm was raised(Opens in a new tab) when the CDC, the FDA, state health officials and the New England Journal of Medicine all warned of a new threat from vaporizer cartridges. In a total of 33 states, since April, there have been nearly 450 cases of respiratory disease linked to vaping. Five people have died. Many of the victims were using black market THC cartridges, sold in non-legal states.
Vitamin E acetate, which can be used to cut THC oil and make it look richer and thicker, was fingered as a likely culprit, although officials say there may be other factors. Vitamin E may be great for your skin, but not so great for your lungs.
Given the popularity of vape pens — as I've written before, they're so widespread in California they should be on the state flag — this news created a massive amount of uncertainty. On the one hand, the reported cases were the result of illicit "street" vapes, with brand names such as Dank Vapes and Chronic Carts, not the high-end California/Colorado stuff flooding my inbox. The FDA's advice(Opens in a new tab) was to "think twice" before buying a THC cartridge "off the street, out of the back of a car, out of a trunk, in an alley."
Pot companies that prize purity need to be shouting it from the rooftops
So if you bought something legitimately in a recreational state's licensed dispensary, you should be fine, right? Not so fast. Marijuana news and reviews site Leafly(Opens in a new tab) talked to a handful of legal-state services which confirmed they had sold Vitamin E-based oils, legally, to various cartridge makers in the last year. Result: An enormous amount of uncertainty about whether that pen in your desk drawer is going to kill you.
The companies who don't use Vitamin E in their vape pens would be well advised to "get ahead of the story," to use a well-worn phrase from crisis PR management. In group texts and Facebook posts over the weekend, I saw vape-loving friends swear off the devices until they had more information. When I opened my inbox on Monday, I was confident it would be filled with emails from vape pen companies eager to distance their pristine product from the Vitamin E health scare.
Nada. Zilch. Crickets. All I could find online was one statement tweeted by Dosist, an expensive "precision dose" vape pen company, which assured users that Dosist does not use any cutting agents; oddly, the statement was not repeated on its own website under its press releases(Opens in a new tab).
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It was also written in the present tense, naturally leading me to wonder whether Dosist had used cutting agents in the past; the company has not yet responded to my query. To be clear, I believe this is more likely to be a case of sloppy PR than malign intent. [Update: the company confirmed the following day that they had never used Vitamin E acetate.] The point is, pot companies that prize purity need to be shouting it from the rooftops right about now.
In a day of asking around, I found only two vape cartridge companies that confirmed they do not use and never have used Vitamin E, or other legal but medically dubious cutting agents such as polyethylene glycol (PEG) and propylene glycol (PG). Those companies are Bloom Farms and CannaCraft, which makes Absolute Xtracts and Care By Design cartridges. [Update: the makers of Cobra Extracts confirmed the same the following day.]
"We feel it is our responsibility to share what we know about the additives and products suspected of endangering consumers and how to avoid them," CannaCraft wrote in a comprehensive statement(Opens in a new tab). Attaboy.
A Bloom Farms statement provided late Monday night.Credit: bloom farms
For many of the other startups in this brand new market, it's possible they don't even know what cutting agents were used in their products in the past and they are scrambling to get them tested. Trouble is, even the lab work required to sell marijuana in legal states does not yet involve a test for Vitamin E and its fellow cutting agents.
"In most regulated states, the majority of licensed [vape] products are free of diluents," claims Brad Bogus, the aptly-named VP of Confident Cannabis, a testing and supply chain software company. That wasn't the case a few years back, he adds; PG and PEG were "used more frequently earlier on." Vitamin E acetate, meanwhile, is such a new player that Confident Cannabis and other companies in the quality control space haven't even been asked to test for it yet.
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"Just like prohibited pesticides, we need a prohibited diluents list as well as requirements to list ingredients," Bogus says. "We can only expect consumers to be able to know so much."
In the absence of such regulation, it's up to the well-funded pot providers to push that information at consumers faster than you can say "Tylenol scare(Opens in a new tab)." Time to get off the couch, folks, before consumer fears strangle your promising and perfectly healthy product in its crib.
In the interim, my advice for vape pen lovers who don't want to switch to edibles: try concentrates instead.
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Trump loses it over hyphens and apostrophes while avoiding his real problems
Readers, it is time to discuss the most compelling scandal gripping our nation this week: Donald Trump being bad at spelling and grammar.
Trump attacked the media once again on Friday morning with a strange tweet, which focused particularly on what he felt was a bad chyron on CNN. That chyron quoted another one of his tweets (this one from Thursday), where the president referred to Rep. Adam Schiff as "Liddle' Adam Schiff." (In a later tweet, he called for Schiff's resignation(Opens in a new tab).)
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The issue with the chyron, apparently, was that it omitted the apostrophe after "Liddle," which Trump incorrectly referred to as a "hyphen." He also spelled "describing" wrong, which every journalist on Twitter pointed out within roughly eight seconds. The dictionary also got in on the action.
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In addition to his grammar woes, Trump is currently facing an impeachment inquiry(Opens in a new tab) after it was revealed that an intelligence community whistleblower filed a complaint regarding the president's July 25 phone call with Ukrainian president Volodymyr Zolensky. He's accused of using military aid money to coerce Zolensky into investigating the business ties of potential 2020 rival Joe Biden.
Merriam-Webster calls out Neil deGrasse Tyson for being a grumpy old man
Neil deGrasse Tyson holds no thoughts back on Twitter, and Merriam-Webster has had enough.
On Thursday, the astrophysicist decided to tweet a complaint about about the word "awesome," which he is clearly sick of and believes is overused by today's youth.
Merriam-Webster, master of language and throwing shade, was promptly alerted of the tweet, and responded the only way fit.
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"In my day, the word 'Awesome' was reserved for things like curing Polio and walking on the Moon, not for food or TV shows," Tyson tweeted, and UGH, dude, could you be slightly less of a grumpy old man nerd, please?
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After seeing this genius man tweet such a dumb, insufferable, failed attempt at being cool, Merriam-Webster replied with a simple yet suitable burn.
One word: Neil. (WITH a period, to really drive the point of "please stop" home.)
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Twitter users rallied behind Merriam-Webster with support, also taking shots at the astrophysicist's tweet.
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Dare we say, the responses were "awesome."
It's not the first time Neil has complained about people's use of the A-word.
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But maybe he should check himself, because it appears he uses it too. 🙄
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Philadelphia Eagles win Super Bowl, poles now being climbed
It's party time in Philly.
The Philadelphia Eagles ended a 57-year gap between championships by beating the New England Patriots on Sunday, claiming their first ever Super Bowl title.
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When the Eagles won the NFC championship two weeks ago, the city descended into relative chaos as fans ascended Crisco-greased poles designed to keep them from doing so.
Ahead of the Super Bowl, police opted for hydraulic fluid (a.k.a. motor oil) as a deterrent.
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Yeah, well, it didn't work. Again.
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It's not just the poles that are the target: Philly might just burn itself down, it would seem.
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Then there's this guy falling back into a crowd of people, as you do.
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Look, nothing is safe.
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QR code Super Bowl ad for Coinbase was a kind of brilliant copy of The Office
The early winner for the most effective ad during this year's Super Bowl might just go to Coinbase, the cryptocurrency exchange platform. The company ran a remarkably simple ad: It was just a bouncing QR code, just like the classic DVD logo scene from The Office.
The ad practically begged you to scan the QR code on your TV and see where it led. It was so basic, a little thing bouncing around, changing colors. The 60-second spot was just long enough for people at home to think something was broken.
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If you did scan the code, it took you to Coinbase's site, which was promoting a $15 Bitcoin giveaway for joining the cryptocurrency marketplace. Just The Office scene with the DVD menu, but it only hit the corner of the screen perfectly right at the end.Brilliant.
There's hardly anything as, let's say...divisive...online as crypto. But even those skeptical of crypto seemed to admit the commercial was clever. Even if you hated it, the ad did its job. It 100 percent got folks' attention.
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The ad from Coinbase actually might've been too effective. The Coinbase app crashed soon after(Opens in a new tab) the company's spot aired during the big game.
And just a quick public service announcement. In general, please don't scan random QR codes if they weren't approved for broadcast during the biggest television event of the year. Getting you to scan a random QR code is actually a pretty common scam.
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Back to the Future stars had an IRL reunion and the video is perfection
There aren't many films that still feel relevant 30+ years after their initial release, but Back to the Future most certainly falls into that category.
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The franchise is so popular that even a 9-second Twitter video of two of its cast members re-uniting can still go viral in 2018.
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Lea Thompson, who played Lorraine Baines in the sci-fi film, shared that clip on her Twitter and Instagram pages on Sunday evening.
From the looks of her previous Instagram post, the video was a throwback to a reunion that took place at Fan Expo Canada last month.
Wow. Such good times and amazing fans at #fanexpotoronto I got very emotional. It really is an honor to have been a part of so many people’s lives through the years. Thank you for being such an amazing part of mine. @tomwilsonusa @realmikejfox @mrchristopherlloyd(opens in a new tab)
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We will never tire of seeing cult film-stars reuniting IRL.
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Jack Dorsey faces backlash after tweet about Chick-fil-A during Pride Month
Even when Twitter isn't in the spotlight for, say, Russian trolls or rampant abuse, they just can't stay out of a mess.
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This time, it was the man in charge, CEO Jack Dorsey, who caused a kerfuffle by sharing a tweet about receiving a "Boost"(opens in a new tab) from fast food joint Chick-fil-A while using his Cash app(opens in a new tab) to purchase food at the restaurant.
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But here's the thing: Dorsey was giving a big shout-out to a fast food company that's now as well-known its anti-same-sex marriage stances as it is for its food. And it also happens to be, well, Pride Month.
None of this escaped the notice of Twitter users who were quick to call out Dorsey.
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Eventually, Dorsey caught on after apparently seeing a tweet from journalist Soledad O'Brien.
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Dorsey didn't elaborate any further and the tweet is still up, so who knows what (if anything) Dorsey plans on doing as a follow-up. We've reached out to both Twitter and Chick-fil-A for further comment on the matter.
In the meantime, here's hoping maybe Jack just opts for a PB&J next time and settles in with one of these great books to read during Pride Month.
Man marries secret childhood crush from the 1950s after reuniting on Facebook
A boy's secret childhood crush has just evolved into a great modern love story spanning 60 years - thanks to social media.
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When Eric Bogliani was in primary school, he had a big crush on his sister's best friend, Elaine. But apparently his mother told him to bottle up his feelings because of his young age, and the crush remained a secret, Eric told(opens in a new tab) the BBC.
Eric and Elaine lost contact after school. But they just reunited after almost 60 years via Facebook.
"If it hadn't been for Facebook, we would never have found each other," Eric Bogliani told the BBC.
"These years we've had together and the years we will have together in the future we may have missed. And how could you miss this?" Elaine Bogliani said.
They just got married in the same school they attended together as kids, which is now a community centre.
This story of love long lost and found again was just what people on the internet needed to brighten their day.
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If you were looking for a sign from the universe to hit up your childhood crush, this is it.
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2018 is almost over and you know what that means? You survived.
You overcame all the bullshit news and upsetting occurrences that have taken place this year, and for that you deserve some celebratory self-care.
Finding the perfect present for someone who's been burned by 2018 might seem like just another challenge standing in the way of you and the new year, so we thought we'd lend a helping hand.
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From next-level sweatpants, sweet treats, motivational trinkets, an entire calendar filled with good news, here are 20 brilliantly restorative gifts to give this holiday season.
1. Good News Calendar(opens in a new tab)
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At times, 2018 has felt like one endless stream of very bad, no good, absolutely terrible new stories. So why not kick off 2019 by ensuring you'll read a whole bunch of good news? This delightfully positive Good News Calendar(opens in a new tab), designed by illustrator Sarah Baumann, will help.
The Good News Calendar isn't your average calendar. It highlights basic U.S. holidays, sure, but also international holidays, historical events, birthdays of icons like Michelle Obama, and even fun goofy holidays like mac-n-cheese day.
Each month also feature a timely illustrated story that's sure to lift your mood, so even if the world around us is burning we'll always have something good to celebrate. 🙃
Price: $28.00 on Signetsealed.com(opens in a new tab)
2. Feejays(opens in a new tab)
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Are you a fan of comfortable pants? If so, you should probably invest in the sweatpants of all sweatpants: Feejays.
What makes them so special? Well, for starters, they have FEET attached. They're cozy pants, socks, and slippers in one ... like Snuggies for your legs! Feejays also sell special hoodies with mittens attached(opens in a new tab) so you can keep your hands warm, too. Imagine, chilling on your couch on a cold day with only your neck and head exposed to the elements. A dream.
Price: $40.00 on Amazon(opens in a new tab)
3. 'This Is Fine.' coffee mug(opens in a new tab)
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The slogan that helped so many of us through the most chaotic moments of 2018 was, without a doubt, "This is fine." So in 2019, rather than repeating the words on a loop, why not get them on a mug(opens in a new tab) instead?
Now, when anyone wants to know how you're doing they can simply glance at you sipping coffee from a mug emblazoned with KC Green's iconic dog comic(opens in a new tab) and realized you are quietly in distress and do not need any additional nonsense added to your plate. Thank u, next.
Price: $17.00 on Topatoco(opens in a new tab)
4. S’well water bottle(opens in a new tab)
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Hydration is a key component of self-care, and also something people neglect a lot! Two excellent reasons why you should treat yourself to a high-quality water bottle.
S'well water bottles(opens in a new tab) are great because they're reusable and help cut down on harmful plastic consumption; insulated, to keep your drinks super hot or cold for 12 to 24 hours; and products of a woman-owned company that partners with charities like UNICEF and (RED). You can even also personalize your own bottle.
Price: $21.00+ on Swellbottle.com(opens in a new tab)
5. "Good Things Happen" keychain(opens in a new tab)
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Sometimes life sucks and you just need a friendly in-the-moment reminder that not everything will be absolute fiery trash forever.
Adam J. Kurtz, an artist who specializes in making people smile through the confusing, emotional parts of life, has the perfect keychain to help. When you're feeling down, just glance at the "Good Things Happen" keychain(opens in a new tab) to restore some faith and help yourself.
Price: $12.50 on Adamjk.com(opens in a new tab)
6. Jade facial roller(opens in a new tab)
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Your face makes a lot of expressions for you so the least you can do is give it a nice massage every once in a while. Jade facial rollers are a cheap, refreshing way to pamper your face — not to mention they're said to help reduce swelling and more effectively work products into your skin.
Price: $17.00 on Amazon(opens in a new tab)
7. Hydro Cool Firming Eye Gels(opens in a new tab)
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Your eyes are probably strained from constantly reading and staring at screens, so they deserve some extra love, too. And Skyn Iceland's Hydro Cool Firming Eye Gels(opens in a new tab) — masks dedicated to rejuvenating the delicate skin underneath your eyes — are the perfect solution.
The gels are said to cool, firm, and brighten your tired eye area, and you only need to leave them on for 10 minutes. The Office star Jenna Fischer swears by them and often starts her day off by applying them fresh from the fridge.
Price: $15.00 on Skyniceland.com(opens in a new tab)
8. Klorane dry shampoo (opens in a new tab)
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Sometimes you're too exhausted to even wash your hair, and you know what? That's fine! In fact, it's one of the reasons dry shampoo was invented.
For people who have to spend hours drying and styling their hair after a shower for it to look presentable, washing can be a pain. So next time you wish you could hold out another day or two before disrupting your schedule and submerging your hair, do it! Reach for some Klorane(opens in a new tab) instead and keep living your damn life.
Price: $20.00 on Kloraneusa.com(opens in a new tab)
9. UnREAL Dark Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups(opens in a new tab)
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Chocolate comes in handy when you've been burned by an entire calendar year, so we suggest stocking up on Unreal Peanut Butter cups(opens in a new tab).
The rich dark chocolate and creamy peanut butter will make you feel like you're indulging to the highest extent. But the candy is made with organic ingredients; is certified vegan;non-GMO Project Verified; and gluten, soy, and dairy-free. You get maximum flavor with minimum guilt.
Price: $5.00+ on Getunreal.com(opens in a new tab)
10. Glossier Moisturizing Moon Mask(opens in a new tab)
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All of the makeup, skincare, body washes, and self care sets in the world can be a bit overwhelming to navigate if you're unsure exactly what it is you're looking for. But if you're in need of a nice, simple, refreshing face mask, Glossier's got you covered.
Glossier's Moisturizing Moon Mask(opens in a new tab) will help hydrate your skin with a brilliant blend of ingredients like licorice root, lemon extract, honey, and aloe.
Weighted blankets are said to help comfort people with anxiety(opens in a new tab) and, in certain cases, even aid in sleep. Great! But the only problem is a lot of high-quality weighted blankets can be pretty pricy.
If you're looking to invest in a cozy heavy blanket that's gotten high reviews but won't put a massive dent in your finances, Amazon recommends this 12 pound one from Brookstone(opens in a new tab).
Price: $110.00 on Amazon(opens in a new tab)
12. Boulangerie candle(opens in a new tab)
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Anthropologie is, at times, extremely overpriced and it remains unclear how mere mortals can afford to shop there on a daily basis. But I must admit that sometimes, when I get stressed and am in close proximity to an Anthropologie store, I walk in and smell the candles.
Many scents are lovely and soothing, but Boulangerie's Espresso scent is my personal fave. And you know what? I think I've finally convinced myself to splurge on one, because in terms of Anthropology, these babies are actually cheap.
Price: $18.00 at Anthropologie(opens in a new tab)
13. A lip mask(opens in a new tab)
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Lips need some attention too, and we're not talking about the occasional swipe of a chapstick. Go out of your way to care for your lips by buying a restorative lip mask. They have exfoliating sugar scrubs, sleep masks, and more.
Lip care doesn't have to be expensive, either. This Aqua Jelly Lip Mask(opens in a new tab) is cheap, but ingredients like shea butter, coconut, honey will leave your mouth feeling hydrated and smooth. We do think you're ready for this jelly.
Price: $4.00 on Peachandlily.com(opens in a new tab)
14. Motivational quote pencils(opens in a new tab)
So much of our lives are spent typing on keyboards that we've almost forgotten the magic that can occur when pencil meets paper.
Why not take some time every day to unwind by putting down your phone, closing your laptop, and writing by hand? With a PENCIL, not a pen. Motivational pencils are a great writing tool to help keep you inspired and focused. They come in a variety of colors and feature a bunch of encouraging phrases.
Price: $2.00+ on Etsy(opens in a new tab)
15. A subscription for something you love(opens in a new tab)
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Subscriptions are great because they're the gifts that keep on giving. Whether it's television, wine, cheese, or books, there's bound to be a subscription out there to suit your interests.
The Strand Bookstore(opens in a new tab) in Manhattan, for example, offers a variety of book box subscriptions for different genres that will bring goodies and compelling books you might not have otherwise picked up right to your door.
Price: $38.00 - $200.00 on Strandbooks.com(opens in a new tab)
16. Chrissy Teigen's cookbook(opens in a new tab)
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Can you say comfort food? Though I'd hate to admit it, we can't live solely off peanut butter cups. But that's OK because there's a bunch of other delicious foods in the world like cheesy jalapeño bacon cornbread, fried chicken wings, and vegetable tortilla stew — all of which the delightfully entertaining Chrissy Teigen will teach you how to whip up for yourself in her newest cookbook, Cravings(opens in a new tab).
Price: $18.00 on Amazon(opens in a new tab)
17. Baby Foot peel(opens in a new tab)
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Masks aren't just for faces, you know. Feet need exfoliation, too. And for all your foot softening needs, Baby Foot's got you covered.
Baby Foot's exfoliation foot peel(opens in a new tab) will take you on a magical, strange, and mildly disgusting (but very effective) journey. Simply put the treatment-filled booties on to apply the exfoliant, wash it away, and over the next week your dead skin will start to peel away. Gross, and also great.
Price: $20.00 on Amazon(opens in a new tab)
18. Smartwool socks(opens in a new tab)
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While we're on the topic of foot care, why not treat your feet to a cozy new pair of wool socks? Smartwool has a huge selection of socks, both performance and casual, that will keep your feet warm, dry, and comfortable.
The company makes sustainable products using Merino wool — a moisture repelling, thermoregulating fabric that especially comes in handy for fans of the outdoors. Winter is coming, and you probably need new socks.
Price: $12.00+ on Smartwool.com(opens in a new tab)
19. A real alarm Clock
A *real* alarm clock.Credit: target
Deep down, you know it's time for you to switch over to an actual alarm clock and stop relying on your phone to wake you up.
The act of staring at your phone screen before bed(opens in a new tab) has been deemed bad. It can effect ability to fall asleep and, in turn, be harmful to your overall health. Put down the phone and invest in an alarm clock. In case you're still reluctant we've suggested a super inexpensive option from Target you can buy to test the waters.
Price: $8.00 at Target(opens in a new tab)
20. Pick Me Up book
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Who among us doesn't need a little pick me up every now and then? Adam J. Kurtz, the aforementioned artist who designed the "Good Things Happen" keychain, knows you do. So he also created this fun portable pep talk.
The Pick Me Up book is full of activities, quotes, and pieces of advice to help get you through difficult times. And once you've filled out the book you can look back through the pages to give yourself hope.
Price: $10.00 at Adamjk.com(opens in a new tab)
Here's to livin' a calmer 2019!
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Bitter ex gets the best revenge on her cheating boyfriend
There are endless ways to end a relationship, but perhaps the most brutal of them all is by ghosting your partner, even if they totally deserve it.
Ghosting, or completely cutting off all contact with someone without explanation, has become a pretty popular way of dealing with a short fling or someone you maybe went out with a few dates. It's also pretty cruel. While ghosting someone you hardly know is somewhat commonplace, Redditor throwawayaccountrar shared a story on r/confession of how they ghosted their boyfriend of five years, and it's just glorious.
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In the post, the Redditor explains that they surprised their then boyfriend one morning with some breakfast and a video game they had wanted, when they discovered their significant cuddling with an ex. The Redditor decided to leave their key to the boyfriend's apartment, the game, and breakfast, and then they vanished into thin air.
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"I went to my car, deactivated my Facebook, and blocked him on all other forms of social media. I then called my phone provider to change my number before driving off," they wrote. So all forms of communication are gone.
But it gets worse.
The revengeful ex texted close friends and family members their boyfriend knew, and had them block him too.
Considering the boyfriend could still contact their ex at their home or work, the Redditor explains that they were able to bail on their current home lease early, and coincidentally, started a new job in a different city that week.
"Completely shutting myself off from him will hurt worse than anything."
"I completely removed myself from him and didn’t offer a shred of explanation or opportunity for dialogue," the Redditor wrote. "I disappeared from his life after his betrayal and I think it’ll not only help me to focus on myself without his presence, but I think completely shutting myself off from him will hurt worse than anything when he thinks on how good he had it with me these last five years."
While seeing the guy's face as he realizes exactly what happened when he awoke to find his partner's keys on the counter, playing the long game and completely ghosting him just keeps paying off.
Either that or they're just lying for fake internet points.