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  • A guide to getting off t

    A guide to getting off to your own sexual fantasies and imagination

    They say the mind is the biggest, most powerful sex organ in the body. But, uh, don't try visualizing that mental image too vividly or literally, unless you're into that sorta thing?


    Instead, imagine your favorite fictional crush pressing you up against a wall, or think back to the hottest sex you ever had in your life. Now stop imagining, because this magical place where all your desires are possible and acceptable exists. And literally anyone can tap into it.

    While sexual fantasies are by definition not "real," their effects on your sex life (especially when explored during masturbation) are — shall we say — palpably physical.

    "Engaging your imagination rather than relying on visual porn for example helps to build, enhance and strengthen your erotic mind," said Dr. Britney Blair, co-founder and Chief Science Officer of the sexual wellness Lover(Opens in a new tab) app. "You can bring that imagination to life when you want to prime the pump on your desire or push yourself over the edge to climax while solo or with a partner."

    "It's incredibly liberating, recognizing our own power to design the scenes and situations that turn us on."

    To be clear, there's nothing wrong with porn or other forms of erotica. But there's something especially powerful in orgasming to smut that couldn't be more personally tailored to what you like.

    "In our minds we're not confined to our studio apartments or our current sexual partners. There are no rules or judgments. Not even the laws of physics apply," said Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the popular audio erotica app Dipsea(Opens in a new tab). "It’s incredibly liberating, recognizing our own power to design the scenes and situations that turn us on and to scrap the ones that don’t work for us."

    Don't take our word for it, though. There's science to show exactly how real the effects of a healthy erotic imagination are.

    In a landmark 2016 study(Opens in a new tab), Dr. Nan Wise — neuroscientist, sex therapist, and author of Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life(Opens in a new tab) — mapped the brain's response when subjects merely imagined pleasurable stimulation on their genitals. Just by thinking about it, the pleasure centers in their brains "lit up like a Christmas tree," Wise said.

    "The mind is really the recipient of all the body's sensations. So there's this empirical evidence of a huge connection between the mind and pleasure," she said.

    While everyone can benefit from using their imagination as a sexual aid, it's an especially potent practice for women and others who society has conditioned to feel ashamed about their sexuality.

    "We have to do more work to lay down the connections, the neural pathways, between the genitals and the brain's sensory reward regions," said Wise. "Using your imagination to masturbate not only gives us the information about what stimulation we need, but also actually strengthens the connections between our genitals and the brain."

    SEE ALSO: Why some people masturbate about people they hate

    Beyond that, getting off to our own sexual fantasies tackles another negative effect that patriarchy can have on women's sexuality.

    "We're socialized to think of ourselves as the objects of other people's desires, like we need to borrow someone else's idea of pleasure" said Wise. That's why learning how to be the subject of our own desires, to embody the pleasure we conjure up in our own mind, can be so empowering.

    Everyone with a brain, genitals, and desire is already equipped to masturbate to their own sexual fantasies. And while the practice does come more naturally to some, it only takes little guidance and patience to unlock the endless possibilities tucked inside your erotic mind.

    Set the right environment

    Set that phone to night mode, but make it sexy. Credit: bob al-greene / mashable

    A major key in setting your mind up for erotic success is to ensure your environment allows your brain to feel fully relaxed, safe, and free from distraction.

    Pick a time and place where you'll have full privacy without needing to worry about any interruption, whether from roommates or notifications. For most people, that place will naturally be the bedroom. But put some effort into also making it a true fortress of sensual solitude, like by locking the door, setting your phone to airplane mode, putting on an eye mask, or maybe even using some essential oils and putting on your favorite sexy playlist.

    Blair even recommends purposefully scheduling these more exploratory kind of session and making them habitual. So maybe it can be something you add to your nightly ritual before bed: Brush your teeth, do the skincare routine, put on some pajamas, then let your mind wander as you touch yourself.

    Create a safe space in your mind

    Of course, priming yourself with the right mindset is vital to unlocking your brain's full fantasy potential.

    One of the biggest hurdles to exploring our erotic imaginations is actually the engrained social shame many of us have picked up (even subconsciously) through sexism, homophobia, social stigmas, religion, etc.

    "It’s important to know if that is coming up for you, you’re not alone. But there is no such thing as a wrong or right fantasy." said Blair.

    SEE ALSO: Am I the only one who's horny for podcasts?

    Treat your imagination as a judgement-free zone. To be fair, clearing or redirecting your mind away from feelings of shame is easier said than done. But certain exercises can help (which we'll get into more in the mind-body connection section below).

    Blair suggests that, while exploring sexual fantasies in your mind, try to distinguish between when you're having a reaction versus a judgment to a certain scenario. Judgments often come from values imposed on you by something or someone else, while visceral reactions can be an indication that your mind wants to explore it further — especially if it's something your never thought you'd be into.

    It's easy to get scared off by an intense response to a fantasy, and write that off as being too weird or outside the norm for your taste. But if you give yourself a second to assess where that response is coming from, you might actually find that the intensity comes from a part of you that you've never tried tapping into before.

    "Everything is okay in the world of fantasy. No fantasy is a crime."

    Or maybe not, and that's fine too. The point is, if you feel safe doing it, just try leaning into parts of your erotic mind that feel challenging and see where it goes.

    "Everything is okay in the world of fantasy. No fantasy is a crime," said Blair. "Whatever turns you on in your mind is totally healthy. Your fantasy doesn’t say anything about you except that you are lucky to have a rich imagination that you can use to have an exciting and enduring erotic life."

    That's another major benefit of sexual fantasies versus traditional porn, too. You don't have to worry about any ethical concerns, because your imagination can't hurt you or anyone else. You're in total control.

    "You imagination is a completely safe space," said Dipsea's Gutierrez. "We can play out fantasies that are risky or illicit that we would never actually want to happen in real life. In our minds we’re free to experiment without consequences."

    Familiarize yourself with (but don't feel limited by) common sexual fantasies

    While the whole point is to tap into the unique potential of your own mind, a good jumping off point is to explore whether the most common sexual fantasies(Opens in a new tab) spark your interest. Researchers have labeled them into different categories, though there's a world of possibilities within those labels as well.

    Dr. Blair described these categories as multi-partner sex like group sex or threesomes; power, control, or rough sex; novelty, adventure, and variety; taboo and forbidden sex; partner sharing and non-monogamous relationships; passion and romance; and erotic flexibility like homoeroticism or gender-bending.

    Jess O'Reilly is a sex educator, author of The New Sex Bible(Opens in a new tab), and Astroglide's resident sexologist. She explained that through each of these fantasy categories you can help identify the specific core erotic feelings that get you into a heightened state of arousal.

    "Oftentimes, they relate to fantasy, escapism or subverting otherwise 'negative' emotions. You might find that sex is really hot when you feel powerful, submissive, challenged, mindful, or playful," she said. "You may also find yourself aroused by feelings that you don’t naturally associate with pleasure, like jealousy, inadequacy, fear, and even humiliation can be exciting."

    What our brains often gravitate to most is pure novelty. What gets you off in a fantasy can actually be the total opposite of your real-life sexual orientation or even completely removed from you, as an abstract scenario happening to someone else entirely.

    Let your spank bank be a place where your freak flag flies. Credit: vicky leta / mashable

    So don't be weirded out if you learn that you're as horny for that fish-god monster from The Shape of Water as the Academy Awards were in 2018. Or maybe you're one of the many women who enjoys a rape fantasy — which, as Dr. Wise points out, in a fantasy context is the opposite of a real-life rape since, "you're choosing to have the fantasy and who's overpowering you. You're in complete control."

    One other general rule of thumb Wise found is that while men tend toward more visually-oriented fantasies centered around preferred body parts, women tend to focus on overall scenarios. However, it's impossible to distill the endless possibilities of human sexuality into neat categories. Which is why you also shouldn't get discouraged or ashamed if none of these common fantasies do it for you.

    "Our capacity for imagination is limitless," said Wise. Don't feel pressure to confine yours to a specific label.

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    Start building your erotic imagination through fiction, porn, memories... anything!

    The truth is that, while other obstacles might make it hard initially to give yourself permission to explore sexual fantasies, using your imagination is a very natural and innate part of being human. Who doesn't fantasizing about getting up from their desk in the middle of a hard work day and quitting, or spend time daydreaming about how they'd furnish their dream apartment?

    "We make Pinterest boards and save Instagram photos, collect and catalog all these things that we like. I recommend starting to do that for your sex life," said Gutierrez. "Become more mindful observing what attracts you to someone. The moments where you feel sexiest. What you want to say out loud during sex but hesitate to. Then the next time you want to use your fantasy for pleasure, you know exactly where to draw from."

    Everything in your life can become part of your horny mood board.

    Everything in your life can become part of your horny mood board.

    We all have that one fictional character or public figure — whether from books, tv, movies, video games, or even politics and the internet — that just does it for us. Begin there, expanding into a specific sexy scene that got you going or whatever comes to mind when you think of that person. Heck, maybe you're like me and realize that a silky, authoritative voice is actually your kink, leading a bunch of non-erotic popular podcasts to become your go-to spank bank material.

    Audio erotica can be a great place to start if you don't want to take the training wheels off yet to explore sexual fantasies of your own making. Unlike visual porn, audio erotica still exercises the muscles of your erotic imagination, asking you to fill in the details and paint the full picture. While we always recommend Dipsea, there's also plenty of free ways to try audio erotica like r/gonewildaudio(Opens in a new tab) and Girl on the Net(Opens in a new tab).

    Once you're ready to bring yourself more to the forefront of the fantasy, begin with a memory of the hottest, most visceral sex you've ever had. Really ground yourself back in that moment by recalling your senses: What position were you in? What did the person's lust feel like? Were you sweating? How exactly did they touch you?

    Touch yourself while pulling from all the erotic mental material you've curated, and don't be afraid to really get your whole body involved in mimicking the sensations you're creating through your mind. Maybe that means masturbating while you're on all fours, or matching the tempo of the fantasy, or even dry-humping a pillow. Don't put any pressure on yourself to orgasm throughout any of this, though, and instead just zero in on embodying the experience of your imagination.

    "It's about giving yourself full permission to explore all our internal pleasure places, and how we experience them in both our minds and bodies at the same time," said Wise.

    It's like writing fanfiction, but in real-time Credit: vicky leta / mashable

    Try these exercises to strengthen your mind-body connection

    Through her research and other studies in the field, Wise has ultimately found that, "This distinction we make between the mind and body is really a very arbitrary one."

    One of the best ways to embrace this in a way that engages your erotic fantasy life in is through something called mindful sex.

    This increasingly popular branch of sex therapy describes a bunch of different practices and exercises that add a layer of sexuality to mindfulness, to help you stay present in your body while experiencing pleasure, train your mind to focus on whatever arouses you, and engage in a non-judgmental curious sexual mindset. Try out basic exercises like pleasure mapping (which Dipsea has a guide for), mindful masturbation (which you can read about here), and sensate focus (which you can read about here).

    Wise also suggests a very simple exercise for getting your imagination more connected with your genitals on a neurological level: Just start by tapping or pleasurably touching your genitals, then stop, then think back on the sensations you felt while touching them. Try to recall and summon them back in your body: What did it feel like in your body when the stimulation was building, then dissipating?

    At first, it might not feel like much at all and the pleasure may be pretty mild compared to what you're used to while using more immediate erotic visual aids like porn.

    “But you’ll slowly start to develop a better connection to that pleasure sensation channel in your brain,” she said.

    Use your imagination during partnered sex

    While sexual fantasies are a great way to enhance self-love, learning how to engage with them during partnered sex can also do wonders to get people over the edge and into orgasm.

    At this point though, you might be wondering: Is it even OK to fantasize about other situations — or maybe even other people — while having sex with a partner?

    “It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you'd come home to eat.”

    “Yes, it’s an unequivocal yes! Because thinking about stuff is not the same as doing it,” said Wise. As the famous saying goes, “It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you'd come home to eat.”

    It’s totally normal for your mind to desire novelty, especially if you're not in a new relationship anymore. In fact, Wise found that one of the best ways to ensure a couples’ longevity is precisely this kind of openness and understanding that people need to fuel their erotic imagination with new stuff.

    “If we can get over these kind of hang ups, get past this fear of our partners having a fantasy about somebody else while they’re with us, and instead use it as an opportunity talk about: What would you like? What haven't we tried? What are you afraid to tell me? Because that's hot. That's really hot,” said Wise.

    Or maybe instead of thinking about someone else, you'd simply rather use your imagination during partnered sex to transport you both to a setting or scenario that heightens your arousal even more.

    In the end, what you do with your erotic imagination is up to you. You can share it if you'd like — or keep it all to yourself. That’s what’s so great about sexual fantasies you cut from your own cloth: They’re all yours, and no one else's.

  • Social media is the new

    Social media is the new bodycam

    Childish Gambino warned us in 2018. This is America, right?


    It's been a brutal week for anyone who doesn't live with their eyes closed. The proof is right there on Twitter and other social platforms. It used to be that we relied on police bodycams to hold officers accountable for their actions. But in this difficult moment, citizen journalism is carrying that bucket instead.

    Something snapped in the United States as former Minneapolis police officer Derek Chauvin pressed his knee against George Floyd's neck until he died on May 25. Floyd was black and Chauvin is white. It was a sadly familiar scene of what looks to rational observers like a clear case of police brutality.

    But this time, we hit a breaking point. The gruesome reality of Chauvin's actions as captured on camera is certainly part of it. He held his position on Floyd's neck for almost nine minutes, until after the restrained man died. The camera captures it all in vivid, horrifying detail. Add to that the ongoing pandemic, and historic levels of unemployment. People's nerves are frayed and the callous inhumanity of Floyd's death was a last straw.

    So cities exploded over the weekend with widespread protests and grim scenes of violence. Even as much of the country outside of major cities continues to hunker down behind stay-at-home orders, social media has brought all of us to the front lines through citizen journalism and shared news reports.

    These ongoing protests are about stopping racial violence and police brutality, and they're hundreds of years in the making. I think the images and videos, and the actions of the people portrayed therein, tell the whole story. Thank you to all of the protesters and members of the press who are out there doing your part to make sure the realities of this moment won't soon be forgotten.

    It hasn't all been as completely terrible as the above visuals suggest. Protesters are out in force and many of them are skipping the violence in favor of working to send a message, lift up the people in their community, and generally just keep the peace. Many others are just doing the best they can to peacefully work through the days, weeks, months, decades of pent-up anger they've been carrying.

    They've even been joined in a few cases by police officers and departments that have managed to maintain a level of trust with their local communities.

    SEE ALSO: How to demand justice for George Floyd and support Minneapolis protesters

    I don't know what else to say. Take care of yourselves, folks. And please, keep on documenting this moment in any way that you can.

  • Police scanner app catap

    Police scanner app catapults to the top of the App Store

    Protesters just made a police scanner the most popular paid iOS app in the country.


    On Monday, 5-0 Radio Police Scanner(Opens in a new tab), which costs $5, was the number one paid app in the App Store. A pared-down version with ads was the number two paid app, surpassing TikTok and second only to the suddenly popular Zynn app. Vice first reported(Opens in a new tab) on the app's rise.

    Protesters clashed with police in Minneapolis, Louisville, Los Angeles, Philadelphia(Opens in a new tab), and other U.S. cities over the weekend. They are demanding an end to police brutality after George Floyd was killed by a police officer.

    A look at the top paid apps. Credit: screenshot / mashable
    Also popular as a free app. Credit: Screenshot / mashable

    Scanner apps let protesters listen to live police radio feeds. App analytics firm Apptopia found the top five police scanner apps, such as 5-0 Police Scanner(Opens in a new tab) and Police Scanner(Opens in a new tab), were downloaded 213,000 times over the weekend. That's a 125 percent increase from the weekend before — a record for police scanner apps. 5-0 Police Scanner was downloaded 40,000 times between Friday and Sunday in the United States.

    Other related apps saw download surges as well, like the encrypted messaging app Signal. It was downloaded 37,000 times this weekend, a record for the app. Same for community alert app Citizen, which was downloaded 49,000 times during the same period, according to Apptopia(Opens in a new tab).

  • Elizabeth Warren and her

    Elizabeth Warren and her very good dog Bailey joined the Washington D.C. protests

    Less than half an hour before the official curfew started in Washington D.C., thousands of protesters were still walking peacefully in the streets of the capital. Among them were Sen. Elizabeth Warren, her husband Bruce Mann, and their dog Bailey.


    Dressed in sensible beige shorts, sneakers, and a basic blue face mask, the last female candidate to suspend her campaign for the 2020 Democratic presidential nomination was quickly spotted by her fellow protesters as she joined the throng in Lafayette Square. Many were clearly thrilled to see her, cheering as she told reporters President Donald Trump had been "wrong" to deploy the National Guard in the city.

    "He is imposing violence on our people," she told one reporter(Opens in a new tab). "People are here to protest peacefully.

    Warren also called for Attorney General Bill Barr to resign after reports that he had ordered the violent removal of protesters near the White House, and tweeted her support for her colleague Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand's bill to criminalise the use of chokeholds by police. Gillibrand was also in the presidential race until last August.

    Widespread protests have emerged in cities across the U.S. in a furious response to the death of George Floyd — who died after a Minneapolis police officer knelt on his neck for nearly nine minutes — as well as other recent police killings, including Louisville woman Breonna Taylor and Florida man Tony McDade. These names are only the latest to be added to a shamefully long list of black Americans killed by police.f

    Trump's response to the protests, in particular the order to disperse peaceful demonstrators near the White House using tear gas and rubber bullets for a Trump photo op, has drawn criticism from members of both parties(Opens in a new tab).

    Other politicians who have appeared at protests include Reps. Ayanna Pressley(Opens in a new tab), Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez(Opens in a new tab), and Joyce Beatty, who was pepper sprayed by police at the Columbus, Ohio event(Opens in a new tab), as well as Sen. Kamala Harris (Opens in a new tab)

  • Every police department

    Every police department should have to hear our rage via Zoom call

    Yesterday, the Los Angeles Police Commission held a Zoom call with citizens — of Los Angeles and the surrounding areas, as well as some former residents — and watched with blank faces as citizens berated them mercilessly for eight hours.


    The call came not only after several nights of protests in Los Angeles, but also after LAPD chief Michael Moore blamed the death of George Floyd(Opens in a new tab) on the city's protestors and looters. (Moore walked back on the comments(Opens in a new tab) after backlash.)

    But that's just the tip of the iceberg: LAPD has a long history of violence against black people — next year will be 30 years since LA officers beat Rodney King(Opens in a new tab).

    After many people were initially left out of the call(Opens in a new tab) because it capped at 500 people — and after the boomers on the commission figured out how to work Zoom — the commission said their statements.

    Then, the real show started. The public unleashed their fury on the LAPD for hours on end. They demanded Moore's resignation or firing, as well as to defund the LAPD and support the people's budget(Opens in a new tab). Some spewed incredible insults(Opens in a new tab), while others broke down in tears. Several impassioned callers, like this one, went viral:

    After watching this call, I'm convinced that every police department needs to have a Zoom call like this one.

    While the LAPD is notorious for its racism, so are many other departments across the country — including the Minneapolis police(Opens in a new tab), who are responsible for the killing of George Floyd. He died after three police officers pinned him down, one kneeling on his neck for nearly 9 minutes.

    Police departments across the nation should be subjected to people's rage. In many cities, they're beating up peaceful protestors who they are sworn to protect, all while we — the taxpayers — pay their salaries. Police commissions are supposed to be working for us, the civilians, and we should be able to scream and cry and drag our cops just like the residents of LA did yesterday. (And then I think we should defund the police(Opens in a new tab), but that's a different story.)

    Public meetings with police departments aren't new. As some activists mentioned on the call, they've been raising the same concerns about the police for years. But now thanks to technology not afforded previous generations, these meetings can be online (and the current pandemic pretty much mandates that, anyway). Virtual meetings can not only be more accessible to people who can't make them in-person, but allows these meetings to go viral and be seen by thousands, both in the department's jurisdiction and beyond.

    The total impact of the LAPD call has yet to be seen. Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti didn't make any promises about changing the budget(Opens in a new tab), and as of publication the LAPD chief has not resigned.

    But that doesn't mean this call didn't have an impact. Hundreds of people were able to express anger that has possibly been pent up for years. People around the country — like me, in New York — stayed tuned for hours and are now inspired to tell our police departments our similar demands (and probably insults). Like protesting, donating money, and calling our reps, being able to rip into our respective police departments can be just another action to elicit change, and it's a cathartic one at that.

    Police commissions and departments have a duty to their citizens to let their voices be heard. We are all owed a more modern-day public forum. Americans everywhere should be able to call out their police chief's racist eyebrows.

    Mashable has reached out to LAPD for comment and will update if received.

  • Even Piers Morgan thinks

    Even Piers Morgan thinks Rudy Giuliani sounds completely barking mad

    Listen, let's not give Piers Morgan — a British TV presenter who's dabbled in racist tropes(Opens in a new tab) and transphobia(Opens in a new tab) — a gold star. But even he has realized Rudy Giuliani seems a little off.


    Giuliani, the former NYC mayor and current personal lawyer for President Donald Trump, appeared on Thursday on ITV's Good Morning Britain, which Morgan co-hosts. The appearance, which took place in the middle of the night in the U.S., turned into a shouting match between two old white guys about who was more discredited.

    The fight began when Morgan criticized Trump's tweet about "when the looting starts the shooting starts" in regards to the protests surrounding the police killing of George Floyd. But the argument soon devolved into a barrage of personal attacks.

    "You sound completely barking mad, do you know that?" Morgan said.

    Giuliani fired back, "No, I don't. You sound like a big liar."

    But Morgan kept going after the former mayor, firing off wonderfully British insults.

    "You've lost the plot. And it's sad to see," the host said.

    Taking a page from his boss's playbook, Giuliani stumbled through a few insults about Morgan's failed CNN show and its poor ratings. At some point, Giuliani either tells Morgan he "sucked up" or "fucked up" — it's tough to tell because Giuliani's words are a bit slurred — but either way Morgan apologizes for the language before twisting the knife further into his guest.

    "When I used to interview you, you were an intelligent, reasonable man and you've gone completely mad," he said. "And you sound deranged. You're abusive. And it's really sad to see what's happened to you."

    A viral clip from the interview goes on in a similar fashion for a few more minutes. It does represent a shift from Morgan — a former winner on Celebrity Apprentice who had a largely friendly (if bonkers)(Opens in a new tab) interview with Trump this time last year.

    But definitely watch the entire clip from Thursday, if only to see co-host Susanna Reid deliver an absolutely perfect, "OK," to end the wild segment.

  • Fox News host says John

    Fox News host says John Lennon — who was killed in New York — wouldnt be safe in the city right now

    Days after an NYPD car floored it into a group of protesters(Opens in a new tab) — just one of many instances of police violence in the city(Opens in a new tab) — New York City mayor Bill de Blasio responded with...John Lennon lyrics.


    "I don't mean to make light of this but I'm reminded of the song 'Imagine' by John Lennon," said de Blasio, according to journalist Jack Mirkinson. He went on to say that defunding the police, a rallying cry of the George Floyd protests, was "not the way forward."

    De Blasio was subsequently roasted by social media(Opens in a new tab) and traditional(Opens in a new tab) media(Opens in a new tab) outlets(Opens in a new tab), and then Fox News got ahold of the quote. On Fox & Friends Thursday morning, Brian Kilmeade thought he was delivering a brilliant zinger about the mayor:

    "John Lennon wouldn't be safe in this city right now," said Kilmeade. "He'd be hiding in his apartment."

    For those who are unaware (like Kilmeade, apparently), John Lennon was murdered in New York(Opens in a new tab) in 1980. His killer, Mark David Chapman, shot him four times outside his luxury Manhattan apartment. He's still in prison and his eleventh parole hearing is scheduled for this August(Opens in a new tab).

    Maybe Kilmeade should do some fact-checking. Imagine that?

  • Singer performs Bunker B

    Singer performs Bunker Boy, a catchy tune about Trumps time in the bunker

    There's a new song inspired by Donald Trump's recent and somewhat confusing trip to the White House bunker, and honestly? It's catchy as hell.


    On Monday, days after it was reported that Secret Service rushed the president to the White House bunker(Opens in a new tab) amidst D.C. protests, singer Courtney Jaye (@TropicalJaye(Opens in a new tab)) penned and performed the tune, titled, "Bunker Boy."

    Jaye shared a video of herself performing the song to social media, and on top of her gorgeous guitar playing and sweet-sounding vocals, the lyrics are truly something.

    "Bunker Boy, don't lie. You got scared and hid in the basement in the middle of the night," Jaye sings. "You're not so tough, no. It's a sorry sight. So take your bible, shove it up your ass, and turn on the fucking lights."

    Jaye ends the song with the lyrics, "Bunker Boy, Bunker Boy, November's coming and we hope you're terrified, Bunker boy," before taking a big exhale and letting out an exhausted eye roll. A real mood.

    SEE ALSO: Stephen Colbert slams Trump's hypocritical Bible photo op

    For those who haven't been closely following Trump's bunker saga, let's recap.

    On Friday night, hundreds of people gathered outside the White House gates to protest racism, police brutality, and the death of George Floyd, a black man who died on May 25, after a Minneapolis police officer kneeled on his neck for nearly 9 minutes.

    Reports stated that when protests escalated Friday night, Secret Service ushered Trump — along with Melania and their son Barron — to the underground presidential bunker, where they allegedly remained for nearly an hour(Opens in a new tab).

    After Trump received some backlash for retreating to the bunker amidst a national state of unrest, he said that he didn't go to the bunker to get away from the protests, rather he was merely inspecting the bunker.

    "I was there for a tiny, short little period of time," Trump told Brian Kilmeade on Fox News Radio. He then stated his bunker visit was "more for an inspection," and that he'd been been to the bunker previously. He said he's gone "two and a half times," whatever that means.

    Trump's bunker comments sounded a bit absurd to many people, including Jaye, which is why she decided to use the gift of song to hilariously call the president out on his suspicious story.

    Jaye tweeted her video and made sure to tag Trump's Twitter handle — and the song has been quite a hit since. At the time of writing this piece, Jaye's tweet had more than 60,000 likes, and celebrities like Sophia Bush have even praised the blunt and catchy tune.

    Jaye is no stranger to writing songs about President Trump. On June 1, she also shared another potential hit, called "fuck this fucking president," which has been viewed 174,000 times.

    In it, Jaye shares her true feelings about the president, and urges people to get out and vote for the November election.

    I only wish Jaye had been cranking out these political hits back in 2018, when former White House Press Secretary Sean Spicer was hiding in (or among) bushes. I bet "Bushes Boy" would have been a real banger.

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    12 things the internet taught us weve been doing wrong our whole lives

    When we spend so much of our time online, we’re bound to learn something while clicking and scrolling. Discover something new with Mashable’s series I learned it on the internet.


    Alleged "hacks" for "life" born on the web have been known to — at best — be simply useless. At worst, they risk getting the "life hacker" killed or injured(Opens in a new tab). Yet the old gal (by which we mean the entirety of the online human population) still has some new tricks to teach us.

    Inevitably, when you gather all of modern human knowledge onto several communication platforms like social media, you're bound to discover some mind-blowing revelations. With TikTok in particular, folks are having the humbling experience of learning they've been doing even the most mundane everyday things completely wrong.

    We don't blame you if these 11 examples make you feel like you've been lied to all your life. But let's just take a deep breath and remember that we don't get manuals on How to Life. At least, we didn't before the internet was around to show us what a bunch of idiots we were.

    1. Starbucks Frappuccinos

    @naatalie_lee(Opens in a new tab)

    starbucks frappuccino ☕️ #starbucks(Opens in a new tab) #coffee(Opens in a new tab) #tasty(Opens in a new tab) #yummy(Opens in a new tab) #frappuccino(Opens in a new tab) #starbucksrecipe(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - natalie lee(Opens in a new tab)

    OK, when Starbucks described their take-home frappuccinos as "chilled" drinks, we did not know they actually meant literally frozen. In retrospect, the above reveal from a #TikTokMadeMeDoIt experiment makes sense. I mean, frapps are usually served with the consistency of icy slush rather than cooled vanilla coffee milk.

    2. Hammering nails

    @adrian.montero.sr(Opens in a new tab)

    Who Knew? #fyp(Opens in a new tab) #foryou(Opens in a new tab) #letsgo(Opens in a new tab) #1(Opens in a new tab) #youtube(Opens in a new tab)#fishing(Opens in a new tab)#hunting(Opens in a new tab)#outdoors(Opens in a new tab) #sincityoutdoors(Opens in a new tab) #greenvspurple(Opens in a new tab)#lol(Opens in a new tab) #mentalhealthawareness(Opens in a new tab) #neverfitin(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Mountain Man(Opens in a new tab)

    I was today years old when I learned that human society has learned to improve on the design of hammers so you don't have to risk life and limb every time you use them. I blame not knowing this one on literally every depiction of a nail being hammered that's ever been shown in film, TV, and home improvement videos. How will I ever learn to trust again?

    3. Garlic

    @majauncensored(Opens in a new tab)

    not me peeling 10 garlic heads after I discovered it 😱

    ♬ original sound - Maja Uncensored(Opens in a new tab)

    Garlic remains one of the most "hacked" items on the planet, with entire Youtube videos(Opens in a new tab) dedicated to demonstrating different methods. But this one, retweeted by Chrissy Tiegen, takes the crown for most popular.

    4. Laundry

    @thethottymama(Opens in a new tab)

    Disgosten #laundry(Opens in a new tab) #strip(Opens in a new tab) #CanYouWorkIt(Opens in a new tab) #FavoriteMemory(Opens in a new tab) #StrictlyCurls(Opens in a new tab) #CatPerson(Opens in a new tab) #ThisIsBliss(Opens in a new tab) #fyp(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Sarah(Opens in a new tab)

    Despite what the poster says, the above video is honestly one of the least nasty examples of "laundry stripping(Opens in a new tab)" (which uses the power of Borax and baking soda) I've seen on TikTok. This TikToker at least cleans her couch cushion covers twice a month, which is more than I can say for myself and many others who bought their couches used(Opens in a new tab).

    This is the one hack I remain scared to try, though. I'd rather live in the blissful ignorance of doing it wrong rather than face the dirty bath water reality of doing it right.

    5. Curly hair

    @thedaniellelife(Opens in a new tab)

    😱Wait ‘til the end I- #curls(Opens in a new tab) #miraclecurl(Opens in a new tab) #curlygirlmethod(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Danielle Elizabeth(Opens in a new tab)

    To be fair, the hair-drying method known as "plopping" (basically just carefully wrapping your soaking wet hair in a T-shirt or a microfiber towel) has been well-established in the curly hair community for years. But TikTok gets credit for turning this more niche expert knowledge into a full-on viral trend(Opens in a new tab). By spreading the trick for effortless locks, it changed the lives of many folks who went their whole lives never realizing they even had curly hair in the first place.

    Welcome to the club, newbies! Have you tried the aloe vera trick yet(Opens in a new tab)?

    6. Can openers

    @mamainthekitchen(Opens in a new tab)

    #lifehack(Opens in a new tab) #kitchenhack(Opens in a new tab) #lifehacks(Opens in a new tab) #todayyearsoldwhen(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - MamaInTheKitchen(Opens in a new tab)

    Move over Bean Dad, because you were actually "teaching" (or, more accurately, "smugly tormenting") your daughter into learning the wrong way of opening that damn can of beans anyway. You're actually supposed to fix it to the top of the can (as Bean Dad's daughter first attempted), rather than sideways as the rest of us plebs have been doing (Bean Dad included). So for those keeping score that's: Bean Daughter 1, Bean Dad 0.

    Aside from just using it wrong, there's a whole host of other uses for can openers(Opens in a new tab) that can save you a lot of hassle — like opening that impossible plastic clamshell-type packaging that's the bane of all existence.

    7. Peeling stuff

    As Mashable associate animator Elvie Mae Parian described, "I think one of the biggest most life-changing things that I learned [on the internet] is how you can peel ginger with a spoon."

    Indeed, peelers are yet another thing we've been royally screwing up in terms of proper use, with this one TikToker discovering(Opens in a new tab) that you can use them in both directions rather than just the downward motion.

    8. Strainers (or "colanders")

    @adreannaspezz(Opens in a new tab)

    How to correctly use a strainer. I’ve been doing this ALL wrong. #lifehack(Opens in a new tab) #hack(Opens in a new tab) #fyp(Opens in a new tab) #viral(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Adreanna Spezz(Opens in a new tab)

    This one feels like a betrayal. How the hell have I, a grown-ass woman, gone my entire life believing the lie of dumping my pasta into a strainer?

    9. Group texts

    @kaansanity(Opens in a new tab)

    Woah 😳 #iphonetrick(Opens in a new tab) #iphonetricks(Opens in a new tab) #iphonetips(Opens in a new tab) #fyp(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - aakaanksh(Opens in a new tab)

    This account(Opens in a new tab) has all sorts of neat Apple tricks and tips worth checking out, like the secret shortcut to an emoji keyboard(Opens in a new tab) on your Mac or a more secure way to chat by using the Notes app(Opens in a new tab). But the above reply-button tip from the iOS 14 update feels like a real game-changer for group chats, which are notorious for becoming unruly nightmares real fast.

    10. Cupcakes

    @maddiegoetzzzzz(Opens in a new tab)

    TEaching my BROTHER THE PROPER WAY TO eat A CUPCAKE @official_ivoryella #cupcake(Opens in a new tab) #dessert(Opens in a new tab) #SelfImprovement(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Maddie Goetz(Opens in a new tab)

    Let's be real: As great as they are, cupcakes come with some major design flaws. Putting all the filling on top makes for a very cute aesthetic. But it also renders taking a bite with the perfect filling-to-cake ratio impossible. Admittedly, the cupcake sandwich method looks a lot more monstrous. But your taste buds will thank you.

    11. Pizza boxes

    @nateandgran(Opens in a new tab)

    Pizza box life hacks #fyp(Opens in a new tab) #viral(Opens in a new tab) #foryoupage(Opens in a new tab) #share(Opens in a new tab) #duet(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Nate Hunter(Opens in a new tab)

    Here's to realizing those dotted lines on your pizza box actually have a purpose. Whichever engineer is responsible for this stroke of genius, our over-stuffed fridges thank you.

    12. Blow pops

    @amyren0_(Opens in a new tab)

    Afternoon snack. Cheers mum for da money #fyp(Opens in a new tab) #hack(Opens in a new tab) #lifehack(Opens in a new tab)

    ♬ original sound - Amy Reno(Opens in a new tab)

    This probably would've been more useful to know a decade ago, but it's never too late to take advantage of being able to suck on a blow pop 30 seconds faster.

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  • Taking nudes is an art.

    Taking nudes is an art. Heres how to create a masterpiece.

    When YouTuber and content creator Maddie Dragsbaek(Opens in a new tab) first started taking nudes, she thought she had to contort her body into being the "most sexy" for whomever was going to see them.


    That changed when she wanted to mimic women in Renaissance paintings. It started by capturing a nude in a mirror as she lounged like the Venus of Urbino(Opens in a new tab) and other reclining art figures(Opens in a new tab).

    "Then it spiraled into...how else can I get creative with this?" Dragsbaek said.

    While bathroom dick pics and the like make us think otherwise, nude-taking can be an art — and a self-love practice. Here's how to create your masterpiece.

    Reframe your mindset, reframe your nudes

    The right mindset — about your body and photos of it — is crucial for good nudes.

    Dragsbaek now sees nude-taking as a creative expression and a way to have fun. No longer solely about being sexy, nude-taking is now a way to connect with herself and celebrate her body.

    Adult content creator and BDSM model Zoey Sterling (@etherealzoey(Opens in a new tab)) said she focuses on the self when taking nudes, as well. "Think of it less as 'who am I taking it for,'" she said, "and more so as 'I'm taking this for me.'"

    Writer and photographer Haley Jakobson(Opens in a new tab) recommends starting with a mindset of nudes being a skillset, something to learn and get better at over time. It's not about being photogenic.

    "Photogenic is a made-up word," said Jakobson, who previously ran a photography business.

    When she used to take nude and partially nude photos of her clients, Jakobson would have them breathe and move, not freeze as many of us are taught for photos. "Photos are meant to capture us living and breathing and in-motion because we're animals," she said, "and that's what we do."

    After her shoots, she'd send her clients hundreds of photos; she wouldn't delete any "awkward" ones. She wanted them to look through them all and see ones they loved alongside the ones they deemed horrible. Homing in on one "bad" photo — which captures a millisecond of your life — and discarding the others is a toxic mindset, said Jakobson.

    "Photogenic is a made-up word."

    "You do yourself a great disservice by not clicking to the next photo and seeing something you really love," she said.

    Negative thoughts about how you look may be present when you take nudes, said Jakobson, and they may not go away. Western ideals of what's sexy or not is ingrained in us — especially if you're socialized as a woman — and that socialization doesn't go away overnight.

    But you can still take nudes even with that mind chatter; in fact, nudes can combat it.

    "The biggest 'fuck you' to the chatter that you could do is say, 'I might look at this photo and feel a lot of [body] dysmorphia, but I still want this photo...Maybe in a week I can look at it and be like, I'm really glad I took it,'" said Jackobson.

    Are you in the mood?

    Sometimes, you're sexting someone when you've already washed your face and tucked yourself into bed with no reason to take off your PJs. Then, bam: the "send nudes" text.

    There's no need to take photos when you're not feeling it, even if someone asks. Instead, take them when you're in the mood, and safely store your nudes for when that text pops up.

    Sterling said it helps if she's in a provocative mood to start with, but she always does a couple test shots to warm up before a session.

    Dragsbaek, who has a nude-taking series(Opens in a new tab) on her YouTube channel, is more inclined to take nudes after she buys a new set of lingerie or another item that makes her feel excited to take them.

    Jakobson suggested focusing on your environment. Get comfortable, put on some good music, even take a bath with all your favorite products beforehand.

    Before you whip your iPhone out, though, establish your personal boundaries. Do you only want to show yourself from the waist up? Do you want your face to be cut off? Clarify those limits for yourself, Dragsbaek said. If someone asks for a photo of a body part you're not comfortable sharing, don't force yourself.

    "Block anyone who doesn't appreciate them," said Sterling of your nudes. "Protect your peace."

    The logistics of a great nude

    There are various elements that go into a photo, including lighting and accessories — and what you're actually shooting on.

    If you want that bright natural light, shoot in the afternoon. If you want soft and warm natural light, take photos during golden hour (right after sunrise or before sunset).

    You can use artificial lighting like from a ring light or box light too, but it'll be a bit harsher — and be more of a production for you. If you want to play with artificial light, try a smart light bulb(Opens in a new tab) and experiment with different colors. When chatting virtual sex with Mashable, sex educator Kenneth Play recommended red lighting as it looks good on camera and on different skin tones.

    Then there's the equipment. A smartphone is more than good enough to take nudes, but other cameras can be part of the session too, if you have access to them. Dragsbaek likes to try out different cameras, such as her camcorder or her Macbook's webcam.

    Taking nudes on a film camera will likely result in shots with a vintage-looking glow — if you can wait long enough for them to be developed. Though, there are apps like Huji(Opens in a new tab) that can fake the look on iPhone photos too.

    If taking photos by yourself, utilize the self-timer. The iPhone camera app has that capability, but there's also the influencer-approved app Lens Buddy(Opens in a new tab) with a customizable timer. You can also pick up an inexpensive mini tripod if you don't have a stable surface to place your phone on.

    Jakobson recommends taking as many self-timed shots as possible, or taking a video and screenshotting your favorite moments, especially if you're a beginner.

    You don't need to focus on the technical aspects like lenses or lighting, either.

    Focus on how you feel, instead. Jakobson typically shot in front of a plain backdrop, but nudes can be taken anywhere you feel comfortable: your bed, elsewhere in your room, the shower, in the bath, or — as Sterling suggested — you can capture a "wild and adventurous" shot on a nude beach or in nature.

    Zoey also mentioned accessories. Decide if you want to wear jewelry or lingerie, or if you want fabrics in your shot like your comforter. If you want to be not-quite-nude but still revealing, Dragsbaek mentioned wearing a wet T-shirt.

    Taking the shots

    What's your favorite asset? What do you want the photos to focus on? Pick something as a warm-up or teaser, said Sterling. There's no need to show your whole body if you don't want to.

    If you do want to pose full-body, however, Jakobson had some suggestions. You can play with moving your arms over your head, or angling your body in different ways (such as popping your butt out), and tilting your head back.

    Or, if you're someone with breasts, you can splay yourself out on your knees and hold your bust. Swaying your hair from side to side can make you feel sexy, and also result in some good shots.

    When Jakobson shot masculine people, she focused on aspects like one's shoulders. She also found that masc people liked to touch their bellies, which she said always turned out sexy.

    This is all experimentation and learning how you like your body to look in photos.

    "You can't know what angle is going to look right for you, until you try it out yourself," said Jakobson. "You really need to give yourself an afternoon when the light is shining in your room and just put your camera on every different surface."

    Keep breathing and keep moving — that's how Jakobson would take nudes of others. She would constantly tell clients to breathe before every pose, every click. "That is what gets people the best results," she said.

    Nudes as a self-love practice

    You may not take nudes you love right away, but that's OK. Get to know how you look while you're naked and in motion. It will be jarring if you're not used to taking photos of yourself, Jackobson said, and it takes time to get comfortable. The more you practice, the more comfortable you'll become.

    Nudes are less about what's in the photo and more about how the photo makes you feel, said Sterling. The photos are for you first, even if you send them to someone else.

    "This body is for me and I'm trying to celebrate that."

    Dragsbaek's number one nude tip is to throw out the idea that your body needs to look a certain way in order to be sexy. Let your body exist as it is. You can tell yourself, "I am allowed to exist right here as I am in this body," she said. "I am not for anybody else. This body is for me and I'm trying to celebrate that."

    See Also: Which dating app should you use? This guide can help you figure it out.

    "Even if you're not at a place where you can look back at those photographs and consume yourself in that way," Dragsbaek continued, "going through the motions of taking them and allowing yourself to just be is really powerful."

    There may be photos of yourself that make you cringe, or days where you don't feel sexy at all. But it's all a process — and, over time, you'll definitely take shots you find sexy.

    While taking nudes is part of her job, Sterling takes nudes for herself because they make her feel confident, attractive, and sexy.

    "Smile at yourself while taking them, laugh at yourself, be sultry with yourself," she said. "I am who I am because of how comfortable I am with being fully human. Being nude is to be human."

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  • How to use stainless ste

    How to use stainless steel sex toys

    Stainless steel sex toys are having a serious moment in the media. Did you do a double-take after reading that? That was no error. The best thing to happen to your sex toy collection: Stainless. Steel. 

    Now this may sound a little bit (or very) intimidating, but don’t worry. These toys offer truly intense stimulation, are easy to use, and last for a lifetime. While they do high-key look like they’re medieval torture devices straight out of the Tower of London, they truly are fantastic for sex, no matter how kinky or vanilla your persuasion. And while they are expensive, they're an investment that will last longer than some lesser-made toys in your nightstand.

    SEE ALSO: The best sex toys available for under £50

    "Stainless steel sex toys are brilliant because they feel so damn good," says Lucy Rowett(Opens in a new tab), a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist. "The combination of the weight, the texture, and the fact [that] you can warm them up or make them cool adds a whole new dimension to sex.

    Stainless steel sex toys are the heavyweights (literally) of sex toys, and we should all get on board. If you’re feeling curious — and maybe a little bit turned on — here is everything you need to know about using stainless steel sex toys to have a truly epic sexual adventure. 

    The appeal of stainless steel sex toys. 

    Firstly, while these toys are, like, completely terrifying at first glance, they’re actually freakin’ gorgeous. Dr. Celina Criss(Opens in a new tab), a certified sex coach specializing in BDSM and gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity, says that their aesthetic appeal lies in the "sleek lines and well-weighted designs that can feel like a work of art as well as a sensually exciting toy." They’re also hella shiny.

    Stainless steel toys have weight. They can add pressure and intensity to your sexual play without having to put in a lot of effort. These toys engage the entire clitoral structure (both internal and external(Opens in a new tab)), can massage the G-spot with the pressure of a deep tissue massage, and even bring the nerve-rich anal opening into play. 

    SEE ALSO: The best sex toys for couples looking to try something new

    These toys really make the most of gravity. "Heavy, with no flexibility to move around, [they] give the benefit of pinpointed stimulation and a sense of 'density,'" adds Julieta Chiaramonte(Opens in a new tab), a kink instructor, writer, and sex expert. Anyone into (or curious about!) the sensation of fullness will appreciate the meditative heft of a stainless steel toy.

    The benefits of using stainless steel toys.

    There are so many benefits to using stainless steel toys. Besides their weight, they are perfect for anyone who finds ABS plastic or silicone toys to be lacking in sensation or otherwise unpleasant from a tactile point of view. 

    What’s more, because they are made from high-grade metal, "stainless steel [toys are] a godsend for those with sensitive skin, [because they] put pressure in all the right spots," without exposing you to any allergens that may be irritating, says Chiaramonte. This is especially important for anyone with sensitivities to latex or other phthalates.

    SEE ALSO: How to finger your partner

    They’re also amazing for temperature play. Try "cooling it off in the fridge or warming it up with some hot water," Chiaramonte adds. Be sure to test the toy's temperature with your fingers before placing it on the genitals. No one wants to get burned.

    Lastly, these toys are dope AF because they are SO easy to clean, "which is essential for safer sex play if toys are being shared by partners," Criss says. You can, no joke, drop a stainless steel toy into a pot of boiling water to disinfect it. Doing some dishes? Pop them onto the top rack of the dishwasher and call it a day. You can even sanitize them with UV light!

    Keep in mind that some of these toys do vibrate and contain electromechanical components. For these, warm water and soap will do the trick for cleaning.

    How to use stainless steel sex toys.

    • Always use lube. 

    Stainless steel toys are compatible with all forms of lube (oil-based, silicone, or water-based). Because they are metal, you want to be sure they have a lot of slip when you’re using them. Friction is the enemy. The more lube the better.

    • Go slowly.

    "Take time to read your care instructions and handle your toys gently and they'll last a lifetime," Criss says. You want to take your time to get to know your toy before you go shoving it all up in yourself or a partner. 

    When you start using it, Rowett says you should still move more slowly. "As both the inside of the vagina and anus respond best to pressure, think sensual and slow pressure and movements so that you and your partner can feel EVERYTHING." Now is not the time for the jackhammer in-and-out … but then again, is it ever the time for the jackhammer? You may even not want to move the toy once it's inserted; lots of folks enjoy the feeling of fullness in and of itself, or combined with other sorts of stimulation.

    • Some advice for anal use.

    Use a generous amount of lube. Insert the toy into the anal opening slowly. Be sure the receiver is relaxed and breathing into the sensation. Communicate during the play to ensure everyone is comfortable. If the anus is tensed up, penetration can cause pain. This is not normal. If anything hurts, stop, take a beat and decide if you want to continue.

    SEE ALSO: How to prepare yourself for anal sex

    Toy recommendations to get you started on your journey.

    You want to be extra careful with stainless steel to be sure you’re not getting a knock-off. "Companies try to sell you cheap metal toys that aren’t even made of stainless steel. To make sure you’re getting top-grade stainless steel, you will have to pay for it. If a toy is being sold too cheaply, stay away," warns Emme Witt(Opens in a new tab), a BDSM expert and writer. Be sure you’re extra careful when buying products — ensuring they are stainless steel. It’s definitely best to stick to well-known brands, especially if you’re new to these toys.

    For anal play: Njoy Wand and b-Vibe


    An Njoy wand is perfect for prostate play(Opens in a new tab) … and all play, really. The balls on either end of this toy are fantastic for deep stimulation of the p-spot. 

    This small metal plug from b-Vibe(Opens in a new tab) is also adorable and great for beginners.

    For vaginas: L’Acier and Le Wand

    Most metal toys that vibrate do not feel very strong, "but L'Acier Shop(Opens in a new tab) has mastered the art of dense, slick penetration with POWERFUL vibration that can be added or removed from the stainless steel toys," Chiaramonte says. 

    If you’re looking for something on the smaller side, the chromed steel mini vibe collection(Opens in a new tab) from Le Wand is gorgeous, sleek, and powerful.

    You can also get stainless steel cuffs, clamps, and other kinky gear — but since this is a 101 guide and these more advanced toys are best made custom, we’ll stick with the basics.

    Stainless steel toys may seem daunting, but they are accessible for one and all. They’re an easy way to up the ante on your sex toy collection, explore mind-bending new sensations, and invest in one-of-a-kind toys that will last you a lifetime.

    What’s not to love?

  • How to squirt during sex

    How to squirt during sex

    TLC famously once sang "don’t go chasing waterfalls," but what if we want to in our sex lives?


    Yes, we’re talking about squirting — the most debated aspect of orgasms for people with vaginas. According to research(Opens in a new tab), around 10 percent to 54 percent of us can do it — and yet, there is a whole lot of confusion around it.

    If you’ve not experienced squirting personally, the likelihood is that you’ve seen what it looks like. It only takes a quick search on a porn site to find video after video of porn stars expelling what looks like litres of fluid from their vaginas seemingly effortlessly and, as it turns out, people can’t get enough of it. 

    According to(Opens in a new tab) Pornhub’s latest year in review, searches for "squirting" on site have soared by 188 percent. Pornhub also found that searches for "how to squirt" have also seen a massive rise over the last year – "how to" searches increased by 244 percent and there are now more than 200,000 videos on Pornhub that are tagged or titled as instructional videos. Porn is designed to entertain, not educate, however.

    We’re here to debunk the myths of squirting for you with the help of the pros and keep you away from typing "how to" into any porn site’s search bar.

    SEE ALSO: How women squirt on camera, according to porn stars

    But what actually is squirting? Is it really just pee? And for those of us who are yet to experience the phenomenon, how on earth are we meant to open the floodgates?

    What is squirting?

    First things first, squirting and female ejaculation are two different things.

    Yes, really. Dr. Andrea Maduro, MD, medical advisor at period tracking app Flo Health(Opens in a new tab), explains that you can ejaculate and squirt at the same time, but the two actions are completely separate.

    "Vagina ejaculate itself is a fluid released commonly at orgasm with a consistency that is sometimes thick, white, milky, and/or gray. It originates in the Skene’s glands, which are located around your urethra and that in turn might lead you to think that female ejaculation is just pee," she tells Mashable.

    OK, but if squirting isn't pee, then what is it?

    If you imagine ejaculation as a trickle, squirting is a tsunami. 

    When it comes to female ejaculation, Maduro explains that two enzymes that can be found in semen —prostate-specific antigen(Opens in a new tab) and prostatic acid phosphatase(Opens in a new tab) — are also found in its vaginal counterpart, alongside very low levels(Opens in a new tab) of urea and creatine, the chemicals that are in pee. The two enzymes produce the liquid that sperm swims around in, but for people with vaginas it is produced in the Skene's glands and simply acts as ejaculate.

    So, that means although it’s not urine specifically, you’re always going to find traces of it because it comes out the urethra. 

    Where does squirting come into it and how is it different? Well, if you imagine ejaculation as a trickle, squirting is a tsunami. 

    "In more complex terms, squirting is an orgasmic expulsion of about 10 millilitres (0.35 fluid ounces) of clear fluid(Opens in a new tab) from the bladder, while female ejaculation is only about 3 millilitres (0.1 fluid ounces) of thick fluid from the Skene glands," Maduro explains. 

    How do I squirt?

    Before you start trying to get your juices flowing, you need to remember the most important thing — squirting is not a sign of "good sex" or of successful masturbation. While some bodies find it really easy to squirt, some can’t — and both are totally normal, Maduro stresses.

    Alix Fox, award-winning sex writer, sex educator and UK spokesperson for Japanese designer adult toy brands, TENGA and iroha(Opens in a new tab), is a squirting pro and has a plethora of tips to get your juices flowing.

    "Prepare by drinking plenty of water in the preceding hours, then laying down a towel, or waterproof sex blanket. The Liberator Fascinator Throw is the go-to GOAT, in my opinion – it has a liquid-resistant core but is slinky and velvety on the outside, and you can bung it in the washing machine once you’re done going with the flow. If you like to self-pleasure standing up, the shower can be a convenient experimentation location too," says Fox. 

    For many of us, it can feel like we’re about to pee right before squirting so to ease your worry, Fox advises that you should visit the bathroom before hitting the bedroom (or your preferred setting for pleasure).

    SEE ALSO: How to perform cunnilingus like a pro

    "Many gushing gurus advise that you need to ‘push through’ or ‘lean into’ this feeling of needing to pee, while bearing down with your pelvic muscles. It can be much easier to let go rather than clamp up if you’re confident that you’re not actually going to piss yourself."

    Toilet break done, what’s next? According to Fox many people with vaginas will find G-area stimulation the key to achieving squirting. 

    "The G-area is a zone of tissue about 0.5-2 inches inside the vagina, on the front wall (so towards the belly button, not the backbone). The G-area tends to plump up when you’re aroused, as it engorges with blood, and applying rhythmic pressure to with fingers or a specially shaped toy stimulates the Skene’s glands and the ‘legs and bulbs’ of the clitoris: hidden bits that extend down from the little ‘nub’ you can see on the outside of your body," she explains.

    Lean into that feeling of pressure that Fox describes and bear into your pelvic muscles and you may just find that you’ve managed to squirt. Maduro adds that the way ejaculation feels can also differ from person to person and while to some, squirting may just feel like a normal orgasm, while to others it can feel like warmth or pressure followed by a release.

    "My favoured route to becoming suddenly sodden is to give myself an orgasm by stimulating my external clit."

    As for how much liquid you might release, it can vary massively person to person. 

    "A 2013 study(Opens in a new tab) of 320 participants measured volumes of approximately 0.3mls to more than 150mls – so from a few drops to a small wine glass," says Fox. "Although the current world record is 1350ml, produced in just 24 seconds."

    Is it just about G-area stimulation?

    If you struggle to orgasm through internal stimulation, the good news is that it’s not the only way to induce squirting, with Fox herself adding that she prefers to do things externally using sex toys.

    "Personally, my favoured route to becoming suddenly sodden is to give myself an orgasm by stimulating my external clit with my iroha Temari vibrator(Opens in a new tab) then keep the vibe in place rather than removing it after I’ve come. It feels slightly overwhelming at first, since I’m very sensitised, then that sensation gives way to a release of liquid. 

    "Other people find rabbit-style dual stimulators that hit the G-area and the external clitoris are what get them to Waterworld, or airpulse suction-type clit stimulators like the Satisfyer Sunray(Opens in a new tab)."

    What about squirting during sex?

    Although sussing out squirting on your own can be fun, you may want to give it a bash with a sexual partner to spice things up. 

    "Get your partner to finger your G-area with a ‘come hither’ motion and use the same toys and techniques together that work while you’re alone," advises Fox, adding that positions during sex that will stimulate the G-area while using an external clitoral vibrator will also have the same effect as your solo squirting attempts.

    SEE ALSO: How to finger your partner

    However, if you want to try and squirt during sex, it’s about way more than the positions, sex toys, and movements you choose. 

    "It’s as much about mindset as it is the right motions," Fox urges. "You’ll need to feel at ease and NOT as though your partner is putting you under pressure to squirt and will be disappointed if you don’t break the seal."

    Even with endless squirting practice, you might find that it is something that doesn't quite happen for you and, we cannot stress this enough, that is completely normal. If anyone is pressuring you to do something that your body doesn't do naturally, then the only cumming you should be doing is to your senses – if your sexual partner is shaming you, it's time to get rid of them, and the same goes for sexual partners who try and embarrass you for squirting. 

    "You also need to make sure that there’s not going to be any ‘ugh, it’s like wee-wee’ immature shame rained down upon you if you do squirt. Like all sex stuff, squirting should be pleasurable for everyone involved," Alix adds.

    How do porn stars squirt?

    It won’t come as a massive shock that there’s some trickery involved in being able to produce floods on command.

    According to Fox, she’s interviewed adult actresses who’ve said that the demand for squirt porn has meant that they can get paid more if they can squirt on cue, so they’ve had to get creative. 

    "It’s not uncommon to fake it either by drinking a lot and forcefully urinating, or filling the vagina with water using a douche, then contracting the vaginal muscles to dramatically shoot it out," Fox explains.

    "A lot of young people might be trying to use this footage as an educational model without realising that they’re witnessing misleading imitation irrigation; squirt comes out of the urethra, not the vagina, and it can be more of a dribble than a jet."

    One porn star told Mashable that sometimes it's not even squirt you're seeing: "There are some times where you get booked for a squirt movie or something like that and you will pee because you're over hydrating."

    Whether you find that you can become the human equivalent of Niagara Falls or that downpours just aren't part of your body's forecast, it's crucial to remember that not everything you see online is legit.

  • No, the Apple Watch Ultr

    No, the Apple Watch Ultra is not too big

    Ever since I've posted a photo of the Apple Watch Ultra on my wrist(Opens in a new tab), I've been getting questions from concerned smartwatch/fitness aficionados who worry that the new outdoor enthusiast smartwatch is simply too bulky.


    While I cannot say whether the Ultra will comfortably fit every wrist, I can assure you Apple's new wearable is just the right size.

    The thing about the Ultra is that it's a special purpose smartwatch. It's a diving computer; it's something you take on hikes, swims, kiteboarding sessions, and even Ironman competitions. It has to have a big display, a long-lasting battery, as well as a larger crown and button (that you can operate with gloves on) to be useful. So that's exactly what Apple did when it designed the Ultra.

    SEE ALSO: Everything Apple announced at the iPhone 14 event

    The Ultra has a 49mm case, which is 4 millimeters bigger than the largest Apple Watch Series 8 you can get. It doesn't sound like a lot, but the case is also fatter and bulkier, and it adds up to a considerably bigger wearable.

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    When I tried the Ultra on my wrist, I could feel the extra heft from the added weight and, yes, it's a lot bigger than the regular Watch (the full set of tech specs is unavailable at this time, but the Ultra definitely feels heavier than the regular Watch). But that's exactly what I expected from a smartwatch like this. In fact, I'd be disappointed if the Ultra were any smaller.

    I'm far from an "extreme" athlete, but I do my bit of outdoor workouts and swims, and I need a smartwatch that can withstand bumping into something, with large, legible letters on the display. Two years in, my own Apple Watch Series 6 has been used for this purpose and it's quite busted up. With a display that's slightly recessed into the case (instead of being curved down into it like the regular Watch), the Apple Watch Ultra feels like it could take a lot more punishment.

    Check out the size of that crown. Credit: Stan Schroeder/Mashable

    I also love the Apple Watch Ultra's new crown, the little rotary dial on the side used for tasks such as browsing through apps. Handling the regular Watch's gentle crown while running or doing an intense workout can be a daunting task. The Ultra's crown is bigger, with far deeper recesses giving you the extra grip you need when you're halfway into a long trail run.

    For comparison, check out other rugged watches from companies like Garmin(Opens in a new tab) and Polar(Opens in a new tab). Garmin's popular Fenix 7 sports watch comes in several case sizes, with the largest being 51mm. I've tried the smaller, 47mm-sized variant on my wrist, and it's roughly as bulky as the Apple Watch Ultra.

    SEE ALSO: How to preorder the new Apple Watch models

    Of course, if you're intent on buying the Apple Watch Ultra for its aesthetics alone, you'd do well to try it out on your own wrist before you buy. But as far as rugged, sporty smartwatches go, the Apple Watch Ultra is just the right size.

  • Viral TikTok air fryer p

    Viral TikTok air fryer popcorn hack technically works but has one glaring problem

    Welcome to AirFryDay, where — you guessed it —every Friday Mashable covers the latest trends, dispenses advice, and reviews recipes for your air fryer.


    Here's a sentence someone who works on the internet never expects to write: I should've read the comments first. But damn, it would've saved me a fair bit of time, a lot of cleaning, and an acrid smell overtaking my apartment if only I'd read the comments before testing a viral TikTok air fryer hack.

    That's because the comments pointed out something obvious about cooking popcorn in an air fryer. If you toss loose popcorn kernels in the basket of a heated air fryer, they will certainly pop. But they will pop and fly upward, sometimes careening into the heating element of an air fryer, which is typically placed right above the basket, totally exposed. Some kernels might even get lodged in the heating element, which would certainly not be good...

    But we're getting ahead of ourselves. First, here's the viral TikTok in question(Opens in a new tab), published by user ameerah_mh(Opens in a new tab), which garnered about three quarters of a million views. It's super basic: Put loose kernels in air fryer, blast at 200 degrees Celsius — that translates to 392 degrees Fahrenheit — and cook for five to six minutes. Here's how their product looked.

    How the popcorn hack was supposed to go. Credit: screenshots: tiktok / Ameerah_mh

    While it might seem pointless — since, you know, microwave popcorn exists — I can actually see the utility in this recipe. Using loose kernels, you choose exactly how much popcorn you make, which is helpful if you don't want a whole bag. The recipe also doesn't use any oil or butter — no added fats at all — which makes it an especially low-calorie snack for folks who want that. If you make loose kernels on a stovetop pot, you absolutely must use at least some oil to prevent burning and most microwave popcorns have at least some butter or oil. I can see the promise in tossing kernels in an air fryer basket, walking away, then having neatly contained popcorn in the basket five minutes later.

    So I set about testing the recipe for this week's iteration of AirFryDay.

    One issue: The air fryer in ameerah_mh's TikTok had a mesh basket. Mine has a nonstick grate, set inside the basket. Popcorn kernels would likely fall through the grate, and thus not receive hot, circulated air from all sides. To correct this, I lined my grate with aluminum foil and poked holes through it, which would allow hot air to circulate underneath the kernels while also keeping them off the bottom of the basket.

    From there I preheated the air fryer to about 400 degrees, set the timer to six minutes, dumped a handful of kernels into the foiled basket, and started the cooking process.

    Foil with holes and uncooked kernels, ready for the heat. Credit: mashable / tim marcin

    About one minute in, a few kernels popped. From there, I listened closely because the best way to cook popcorn is to pull it when the popping slows to a crawl. The popping increased until about 3 minutes were left, when kernels really started clanging around. For lack of a better term, the popping sounded violent. Then the smoky smell started leaking out. Shit, I realized, it's probably ricocheting off the heating element.

    Is this the end for my air fryer? I wondered.

    Eventually the popping slowed and I turned the heat off with more than a minute left on the timer.

    When I pulled the popcorn out, I was pleasantly surprised, considering the burning smell. There was a decent bounty of well-popped, stark white popcorn. No oil, no muss, no fuss. Sure, there were a number of un-popped kernels, but such is life with popcorn.

    Not a great pop ratio, but not terrible. Credit: mashable / tim marcin

    I dumped the product into a bowl, enjoyed a few kernels, then salted the whole thing and crunched a big handful. Not bad! In a pinch, it was a healthy, easy snack.

    Popcorn, up close. Credit: mashable / tim marcin

    But then I inspected the heating element and yikes, it was not good. A fair number of pieces of popcorn had popped, shot into the heating element, and lodged themselves into the element itself. The popcorn was charred and still smoking. Frankly, it looked like a mess that was going to suck to clean.

    Not great! Credit: Mashable / tim marcin
    Never great when your air fryer starts smoking, even though it is turned off. Credit: mashable / tim marcin

    Sheepishly, I went to the comments of the viral TikTok to see if other folks had run into this issue. To my dismay, people pretty much predicted this would happen. "What about the element," wrote one commenter. "Don't do it. I have exactly the same air fryer and the popcorn burns on the element," wrote another. "If any gets in the fan that's a problem," wrote a third.

    Well, don't I feel silly. So, yes, while this popcorn air fryer hack technically does work — heat pops popcorn, duh — there is no way I'd recommended anyone try it. Now if you'll excuse me, I have a heating element to clean.

  • People are selling Disne

    People are selling Disney Splash Mountain water on Ebay. Its the dumbest thing ever.

    There's that saying "a fool and their money is soon parted," but I typically try not to judge people by how they spend their money. Life is short and whatever floats your boat, you know? I've spent far, far, far too much money(Opens in a new tab) at Buffalo Wild Wings to cast judgement.

    But if you buy grody water from Disney's Splash Mountain then, pal, you are a fool. I would need you to sit down, take a long look in the mirror, and rake the depths of your soul to uncover what led you to such a dumb decision.

    In case you've missed it, people are selling (what they claim is) water from Disney World's Splash Mountain, the famed ride that's getting reimagined because of its connections to the racist old movie(Opens in a new tab) Song of the South. The ride officially closed this week, and people began selling what they claimed was water from the log flume ride on eBay.

    A Dasani bottle of "Splash Mountain water"(Opens in a new tab) can be yours for the low, low price of $99.99. Meanwhile, this person is trying to get(Opens in a new tab) over a grand for some of that "Splash Mountain water." Somebody has actually bid(Opens in a new tab) $13.50 on this sandwich bag of water. There are so, so, so many listings of water that may or may not be from Splash Mountain.

    If you buy that baggie of water...I just don't get it. Credit: Screenshot: Ebay

    Never underestimate the power and strangeness of Disney Adults(Opens in a new tab). It would not be shocking to find out that people are really shelling out money for this stuff. They are obsessed with the House of Mouse and will spend every last dime on it, so it doesn't seem that outrageous to imagine people buying the water from a racist amusement park ride.

    Now, to be clear, there really isn't a great way of knowing where the water comes from. I could go into my kitchen, fill up a bottle with tap water and put it up for sale. Some people likely could identify the water if they could smell it, however.


    CNN pointed out(Opens in a new tab) that Disney people swear that water at Disney rides is just...different — that whatever chemicals the park uses to kill germs gives it a distinct, pleasant smell. I am very sorry, but that does not make it worth purchasing it online.

    Anyone willing to buy that water represents all the worst parts of fandom. It's just so over the top. Yeah, fans of all kinds spend their hard-earned cash feeding their fixations and adding to their collections. Whatever makes you happy. But buying gross water from a racist theme park ride without any way to actually authenticate it? That's just a step too far up the mountain.

  • Harry Styles is going to

    Harry Styles is going to read us a bedtime story and its exactly what we need right now

    There's something very soothing about Harry Styles' mellifluous voice. So soothing, in fact, that you'll soon be able to hear him read you a bedtime story.


    The One Direction star has voiced a sleep-encouraging story for meditation app Calm and you'll be able to listen to it from July 8.

    If you've ever had any trouble nodding off to sleep, you might already be familiar with Calm's Sleep Stories(opens in a new tab), which launched back in 2016 and have a range of star-studded narrators, including Nick Offerman, Lucy Liu, Stephen Fry, and Matthew McConaughey. And, if you haven't heard of the magical wonders of sleepcasts and sleep stories before, here's a great article with much more useful information.

    SEE ALSO: How sleepcasts helped me tackle insomnia

    There's even a hashtag to accompany the dropping of this....bedtime story: #DreamWithHarry. 

    To give you a taste of how that Sleep Story might sound, listen to the below video right until this end.

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    Even that one sentence — "Hello, I'm Harry Styles" — is enough to make me drop off to the land of nod.

    The collaboration isn't such a stretch, as fervent Harry Styles fans know: Not only has he been open about the importance of mental health(Opens in a new tab), but he also invested in Calm in 2018(Opens in a new tab) during their Series A round.

    "Sleep and meditation are a huge part of my routine, whether I'm at home, in the studio, or out on the road," Styles said in Calm's press release. "I'm so happy to be collaborating with Calm at a time when the world needs all the healing it can get. Treat people with kindness."

    Michael Acton Smith, Calm co-founder and co-CEO, said in their press release that Styles' Sleep Story(Opens in a new tab) will help millions sleep every night. "His mellifluous voice is the perfect tonic to calm a racing mind," said Smith.

    "Rest and recovery is as important as doing the work," said Styles. "Finding a balance has been endlessly beneficial to both my physical and mental health. It’s changed my life."

    Sweet dreams, one and all.

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